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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. For the past 3 months we live an hour away from each other. I see him once a week just on the weekends. before his parents moved we lived under a minute away. We are both in our twentys and we decided to work for a year to save up money so we could move in with each other at the end of the year. We've had a rollercoaster relationship. When things are amazing they are GREAT but when things are bad our fights are like world war three. My boyfriend is a great man but he has a very bad controlling quality which lays heavy on our relationship. Im the type of girl who has a go with the flow attitude until i can't take anymore of his controlling attitude and im pushed to my limit. I then let my emotions get the better of me. So now recently i tell him what bothers me when it bothers me. That way i dont have these bottles up emotions. Personally for me, it appeared that he didnt like that i was starting to stand up to him so much. I was tired of staying home and not being able to see my girlfriends when he went out. I was tired of hearing how his job was so much better than mine. Etc. He has been this way before and after he moved So i started to have a voice and disagree. I started to not care if he got offended if i went to dinner with my girlfriends. Well after i started to have a voice we argued more. We then both decided to take a break for two weeks. His side of the story is that im too emtional and getting angry about every little thing now. He thinks by seeing him once every weekend is too much. It should be every other weekend. And that i should be okay with him going off while i wait till he wants to hang out. Mind you im the one who drives to him every weekend. He now tells me he needs more time to one, teach me not to take him for granted and two to see if we have a friendship and can have fun together i had let him know that he need to worj on his controlling and selfish attitude. Ive been so stressed out that i cant think clearly. Should i agree with having a longer break in hopes that he will change? Or is this just another controlling way he can have the upper hand and i should leave for good?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 October 2013):
 I agree it's the beginning of the end...
if you are LDR ( I did it for a year) you want to be together MORE not less and every weekend is NOT enough. Now he's saying every other weekend so he can go play while you sit home and wait for him... UMMM NO.
stop driving to see him at all
stop rowing the relationship boat and when he calls for sex.. be busy... see what happens.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 October 2013):
 He is being controlling and this is just a new way for him to try and get the upper hand. He will not change! People do not change! How many times do we need to hear, and say, this? A man will not change and a woman can not change him. You need to either be happy with him as he is, without changes, or leave. Sorry, but that is the cold fact.
And personally, if you ask me, I think you will be much better off without him in your life. He makes you miserable. Making you happy on occasions just isnt enough. You can be happy on occasions as single too, I actually think you will find morw happiness as single. You will have your freedom then, to do as you please. Hanging with friends without being guilt tripped.
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