A
male
age
41-50,
*arrybaggs
writes:HiThis girl, who happens to be an ex, is keen to join my band. But she missed our first rehearsal, saying there was no time specified and she couldn't make it as she'd made other plans. I was annoyed at the time, but disn't bother too much as I decided it wasn't worth my effort to chase someone. But then she text the next few days asking silly questions or trying to chat. I was still a little annoyed with her so didn't answer.Eventually I did answer her texts-she sent one saying she wanted to come along. I told her I did but she previously no-showed! She then sent an email apologising, saying she has uni resits, is having sleeping problems and she is dumb because she has to do resits and will come to rehearsal when she can.I appreciate this sounds a mess and confusing. How do you think I feel? What I'm asking is, is she after attention and for me to run after her and feel sorry for her? I haven't really given in to her behaviour as yet, so it's like she's still behaving like this? Does she want me to do something specific, or tell her I care? Does she want me back?Any help is much appreciated!Thanks
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 here's a lil female insight, Dont know what happened between u guys but she's doing the Im so into being ur friend but right now im standing u up and making myself unavailabe..I think thats great you want to be friends and are letting her into the band. But all she's doing is mesing with you and trying to pay u back for whatever went sour in your guys relationship. She's trying to chase after u and then run away when you give her the slightest attention back. Some girls are better left in your past
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 August 2010):
The word 'ex' is the big thing. Whether she wants you back, she's wasted your time. And I suspect that she will continue to waste your time as well. Maybe she wanted you back, then changed her mind yet again. Maybe she is in need of an ego boost. Who knows. the point here is that you're wasting time with someone that it didn't work with before. There is a reason she is an ex. This is a reminder of that reason.
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