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writes:So I have a best guy friend that I have always loved ever since I can remember. The day we met I knew there was something different about him that I liked. He was sad at a party- we were complete strangers- and I went to cheer him up despite all my friends telling me he was weird. After that we became best friends, talking all the time and hanging out whenever we could. This was all about two years ago.I know you're all thinking that I'm too young to know what love feels like, and I'm not going to say I do because I know I probably don't. But I think I've had enough experience with guys to know moderately what it must be like. For me it's just wanting that person to be happy, despite if you have him/her or not, and that's exactly how I feel. I've seen him with probably three serious girlfriends so far, and with pretty much all of them he'd ask me for advice. The whole time I was so jealous, I'll admit it, but all I wanted was him to be happy so I helped as much as I could whenever I could.We've been there for each other through everything, even when it seems like no one else was. I love him very much, and just the thought of something happening to him makes me burst into tears.About a year and a half ago I told him that I liked him, however it didn't affect our friendship at all. About a year ago we kissed once while we were hanging out, and it led to hooking up a few times. But after that I stopped contact with him (ignoring texts, eventually he understood what I was doing and stopped trying) because I was scared he was using me, and just straight out confused from my lack of knowledge about guys. A couple months later I realized how empty I felt without him and started talking to him again, he seemed ecstatic that I was back and we became close friends again, the hook ups were never brought up or mentioned.We're still very close friends, but I still love him. I always thought it was just a crush and it would go away, but it doesn't seem like it is and I don't know what to do. I don't really want to say anything to him, because our friendship is very important to me. I've told myself I'm perfectly fine with just being this, but I just don't know anymore. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think I might have accidentally deleted the paragraph about him currently having a girlfriend. He says he's "Never been happier" with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): try telling him its very likely that he likes you to...
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 December 2010):
It seems you have a very good frienship and seems to have all the qualities for the perfect boyfriend, you should definitly go for it! Although you say you think we will feel you're to young to to know what love is I don't agree with you, you sound very mature and you know what you want. There is absolutely nothing stopping you, and I seriously believe you two have an amazing future ahead of you, I wish you the best of luck.
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