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writes:I've noticed that other women on this forum have gone through or are going through a similar situation to mine. However, mine is a slight variation and the advice to the others didn't really apply. Here's my situation:I just recently broke off an engagment to an abusive man and moved back home. I didn't want to be in a rlationship or anything like that, with anybody after the life I had been through. I really needed some time to myself. But, you can't decide who comes into your life. I met a guy (Guy M) and we became friends, not real close or anything. Then he asked me out on a date, and it went great! For the next month and a half, we saw each other everyday, would spend the night, etc. Then, he left the USA for a job in Mexico, but only to be gone for 6 weeks. This was not a big deal until my ex-boyfriend from 8 years ago (Guy J) and I carpooled to a mutual friend's birthday party. We hit it off, in a major way. The next morning he asked what it all meant and I told him that I was seeing someone else who was currently out of the country. I feel bad for both of them in this situation. The both have strong feelings for me, and I have strong feelings for both of them. I feel that Guy J (ex from highschool) is the more logical choice in many ways, but I feel that Guy M deserves a chance. Guy J already had one chance and messed it up, but I'm obviously willing to give another. Should I give Guy M the chance he deserves, or should I go with my ex (Guy J) because it's the safe choice (I know he will always love me)?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 You are 21. Neither guy deserves a finite answer until YOU decide. Play the field and give yourself a bit of time to decide. Ultimately, the only person who can make this decision is you.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Give the new guy a chance. It's not a good enough reason to go back to an ex because they will always love you. What made you break up in the firse place? Give the new guy a chance and if that doesn't work, then you can decide what you want with your ex. Just don't pass up a good guy without knowing what you could possibly be missing.
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