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writes:I am currently married for 7years with 2 kids, a girl and a boy. Me and my husband were happy during our first 4 years of marriage … most of our friends admires our relationship as we are a dream couple…Until he tried to get a mistress (he got jealous because most of his friends have got mistress and he feels like he is not appealing… and that is why it push him to get one). At first he did not tell his mistress that he is married, but after a month of their boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, he revealed to his mistress that he is a family man… his mistress got angry to my husband but its only for temporary… she forgiven my husband and continue with their relationship until I caught them… my husband asked for my forgiveness and he said he loves us and he will not do it again… but this is just the beginning of my Calvary… they continue to see each other despite of several forgiveness that my husband asked and with my stupidity I always forgive him.. the mistress of my husband is 28 years old and I am 34 that is why I feel so insecure. I lose my trust on him, so everytime he came home late I always suspect him that they saw each other again… and I am right… he always see his mistress before going home… after 3 long years of my suffering… he talked to me and he said he wanted to leave us and pursue with his mistress, as he is no longer happy with me… I admitted that I lose my trust on him but I still love him… I said sorry to what I have done and I told him that I don’t want him to leave and I told him I will do my best to put back my trust and will not be too tight to him anymore… I did what I promised to him but with no luck he still want us to leave us as he said he will stay unhappily with me if he will not leave. He will be leaving in 2months after his mother get better… Please can someone advice me what should I do to make my husband realize what he is going to loose if he leaves his family and choose to leave with his mistress…thanks,sweetwoman
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reader, raiders  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 You will not forget but will learn how to cope with it. Live each day, day to day and one day you will realize it no longer hurts. If you need counseling go to it, find support groups. Go out distract yourself and have a good time, when you least expect it you will notice that you can move on. Good luck in all that you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello, thanks a lot for advice... i let him go... and trying to move on myself with my children... thanks a lot..
at present can someone help me to give word of wisdom for me to move on and forget what happend to me. i wish 1 day i will wake up from bed with a smile...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello, thanks a lot for advice... i let him go... and trying to move on myself with my children... thanks a lot
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reader, raiders +, writes (24 March 2010):
Sweety why do you want to continue to have a relationship with this man. You are young and should have more confidence in yourself. Go to supports groups but do not let your pride as a women be step on constantly put your foot down dear. He has shown to you that he is not going to change and he actually wants to leave you for his lover wake up let him go, you should have been the one that kicked him out. I know it is easier said than done but think on how unhappy you are going to be if you continue to stay with him and honestly your husband has told and showed you he does not love you so let him go. If you give yourself a chance you will find happiness with a real man.
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