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*onfused1985
writes:I have just come off the phone with my girlfriend after an unsuccessful phone sex session.I feel really bad as she was really horny and I didn’t know what to say as I’ve never had phone sex before. (or real sex for that matter) When I said “Sorry babe I really don’t know what to say” she said “got to go” and put the phone down, no good bye, no I love you, NOTHING!Do you think she hates me??? I don’t know what to do!
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reader, Confused1985 +, writes (20 August 2008):
Confused1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the replies everyone but she did finish with me (which I feared) but thanks for your help.
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reader, Emma'08 +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Well maybe she did actually have some sort of reason for leaving the phone & no worries, just try to be positive. But if phone sex is the case then, Maybe try a range of erotic lines like asking her to touch herself in a place of her choice or taking controll and sexually ordering her to play with herself. Whatever suits hers & your sexual needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Well, now you know what turns her on! ... words...
Spend an hour or two thinking about things to text to her or say to her... describing in detail how beautiful the various parts of her are, and what you would like to do to them and what you'd like to see her do. When you're ready, send her a sexy text message building on something she said or wrote earlier, and see if she responds.
Of course, even better than that would be to make out with her in the flesh. It's probably best to come clean though and let her know that you're sexually inexperienced, and that you need her help in showing you how to please her.
Heh heh, I have to say that your description of your failed phone sex made me laugh. That's SO real life! No need to be ashamed.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 August 2008):
I know it's hard to do if you are nervous, but she probably still took it that you felt really awkward because of her, rather than just because you were being put on the spot.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Confused1985 +, writes (2 August 2008):
Confused1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did try lol, I didn't just say no!
I know what phone sex is I just couldn't keep it going, I kept getting stuck with no knowing what to say.
e.g. "I'm kissing your stomach very slowly... Erm... then I'm... Erm"
Not very sexy is it lol
The reason I'm worried she will be mad with me is the same thing happened with text sex a couple of weeks ago where I didn't know what to say :(
I just don't want to lose her because she is the BEST thing to ever happen to me!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 August 2008):
Imagine you got naked in front of her for the first time hoping to she'll be impressed with your penis and you were really nervous but you were going for it, and she just stood there fully clothed looking at it and said "Um, no, I don't know what to do in this situation" and looked really uncomfortable.
You'd run for the nearest pair of trousers.
That's what she did. She opened up by saying a really naked intimate thing and you said "nahhh."
She's going to feel incredibly embarrassed and probably feel a little rejected that when put on the spot you couldn't think of one single thing you'd like to do to her. You didn't even say you wanted to kiss her.
Next time you see her, sweep her off her feet and tell her you might not be able to describe what you want but you can show her and make her feel really sexy. Pay her LOTS of compliments on how much she turns you on. She won't feel awkward if you don't show you feel awkward.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Maybe she just was going to please herself another way or soomething I would phone and act naturally and just talk about it if she insisted if you want to have a go just try and if not just tell her you prefer face to face sexI think it is nothig to really worry aboutc'on boy you'll come through worse things in advancecheer up
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 August 2008):
 No she is just highly embarrassed!!!! im not that good at it either but have managed it when hubbie worked away. I just pretended to be someone else and said what I thought he would like to hear. I think I probably had several glasses of wine first!!!
Just forget about it, she doesnt hate you x
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reader, ClaireAndJamieXX +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Calm down this girl has no good reason to be mad at you at all. She might have just been embarrassed by her suggesting phone sex or she really had to get off the phone quickly. Whatever the reason she shouldnt be mad at you for being honest. Try getting in contact with her tomorrow and talk to her about it and ask her to maybe teach you. Good luck xx ps phone sex is when you pretend you are with that person having sex but talk them through it like your narrating aka talking dirty
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): No not at all! She's just really embarrassed that you weren't the one taking the lead in this situation!!! You should just apologize and explain that you have never done anything like that before and it felt a bit awkward but that you can't wait for it to be the real thing with her because you love her so much...something along the lines!!! I know if I was her, I would have totally hung up the phone like that...at least she said got to go..I would have hung up without saying anything!!!!!
So don't stress...just explain and hopefully you'll feel better xxx
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