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Why can't I go?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...

A.   7 June 2011: I've been off the Anti Depressents since the end of January and I've still got a problem :(... (read in full...)

Why can't I go?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...

A.   3 June 2011: I had never been intimate with a girl before taking anti-depressents so I don't know :(... (read in full...)

Why can't I go?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...

A.   16 April 2011: Do you think antidepressents have damaged me? :(... (read in full...)

Can't maintain an erection, even when I'm really turned on!

Q.   Hi, I have problems getting and keeping an erection when I'm with someone, I thought at first it was because I was nervious but today I got with this girl who I've known for ages and who I'm very confident around. We stared kissing and then bec...

A.   19 July 2010: It's not a one off, its happened many times before. I've never had full sex :(... (read in full...)

How does a 23 year old (UK) man go about getting Viagra?

Q.   Hi, How does a 23 year old UK man go about getting Viagra? Is it available to buy off the shelf or would I need to see my doctor? Any help would be appreciated. ...

A.   11 January 2009: I'm having problems getting an erection in front of my (sort of) girlfriend and I think soon she will get pissed off with no sex because she is a very horny young lady.... (read in full...)

Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?

Q.   Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?...

A.   21 December 2008: She does have a Boy Friend at the moment but she wants to have sex now with someone she feels comfortable with.... (read in full...)

I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough, what do I do?

Q.   I’m a virgin and I’m horny all the time to the point that I get headaches if I don’t masturbate! I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough What do I do? ...

A.   21 December 2008: I don't have a Girl Friend but I am trying lol and I don't cum unusually fast... (read in full...)

Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?

Q.   Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?...

A.   21 December 2008: I do like her a lot and care about her loads but I don't think it's anymore than me being good friends with her ... (read in full...)

I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough, what do I do?

Q.   I’m a virgin and I’m horny all the time to the point that I get headaches if I don’t masturbate! I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough What do I do? ...

A.   21 December 2008: I do work and I don't look at porn very often lol... (read in full...)

How can I lift my breasts without telling anyone?

Q.   my breast are very unattractive My nipples are big and light colored, my left is about a half of size smaller than the right, and worst of all there saggy…..I am only 14 years old so I cant have any kind of surgery and I don’t want to talk to my pa...

A.   21 December 2008: Hi, I’m no expert on breast development but at your age I don’t think you should worry about how your boobs are as they will still be growing until about 18 and in that time they might change shape a lot! Please don’t let it bother you at th... (read in full...)

Catastrophic phone sex. Does she hate me? Have I messed up?

Q.   I have just come off the phone with my girlfriend after an unsuccessful phone sex session. I feel really bad as she was really horny and I didn’t know what to say as I’ve never had phone sex before. (or real sex for that matter) When I said ...

A.   20 August 2008: Thanks for the replies everyone but she did finish with me (which I feared) but thanks for your help.... (read in full...)

Catastrophic phone sex. Does she hate me? Have I messed up?

Q.   I have just come off the phone with my girlfriend after an unsuccessful phone sex session. I feel really bad as she was really horny and I didn’t know what to say as I’ve never had phone sex before. (or real sex for that matter) When I said ...

A.   2 August 2008: I did try lol, I didn't just say no! I know what phone sex is I just couldn't keep it going, I kept getting stuck with no knowing what to say. e.g. "I'm kissing your stomach very slowly... Erm... then I'm... Erm" Not very sexy is it lol T... (read in full...)

Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...

A.   24 July 2008: No I'm not planning on having sex with her in the near future but she seems like she does want to sooner rather than later!... (read in full...)

She's my first proper girlfriend so should I buy her a sex toy? I'm also a virgin.

Q.   Me and my girlfriend were cuddling the other day and I asked jokingly "you don't have any weird sex toys I should know about do you" and she replied "I do have one blue dildo that my ex bought me... maybe you can buy me a better one!" We have o...

A.   24 July 2008: lol, thank you all very much for your advise. P.S. yes she knows I'm a virgin.... (read in full...)

I don't our relationship to be just about sex, so what do I do when my gf says she's horny?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together about 2 weeks but she seems very horny now and again (she has tried to have text sex with me and has rubbed my penis when we have kissed and said she is wet) I don't want our realationship to be just about se...

A.   24 July 2008: Thanks for your advise.... (read in full...)

I want to have sex, my boyfriend only wants, to have blow jobs, how do I tell him, that I want more sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now and a couple of weeks ago we had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever but not his. But now it seems like all he wants to do is get blowjobs! how do i tell him without being ...

A.   22 July 2008: 69'ers might be a good next step?... (read in full...)

I am attracted to my sister and want to have a sexual relationship, how do I seduce my sister?

Q.   Me and my sister are really close and only a year apart. but i am atracted to her more than most girls. does anyone have any idea as to how i can seduce my sister to have a sexual relationship?...

A.   21 July 2008: OMG!!! It's not even healthy to fantasise about it! Get a pic of Lucy Pinder or Jordon (someone like that) fantasise about being with one of them, crack one off and forget about your sister. If you get a hard-on for your sister for god sake... (read in full...)

Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...

A.   21 July 2008: Thanks, I think it's just nerves because we are getting on so well and I just don't want anything to go wrong lol... (read in full...)

Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...

A.   21 July 2008: She told her parents and they are totally fine about it.... (read in full...)

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