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writes:I was in a relationship for 23 years and then seperated and divorced after meeting someone else. We see each other every other week and talk most nights. When I left my husband and over the last 2.5 years I've never felt that the relationship has moved on despite my boyfriend telling me he loves me and now wants to move to where I live. After 8 months with Oliver I met someone else. He made me feel alive and still does but as much as I want to give it a go with him I finish with my boyfriend and then feel devastated and end up going back to him. Yet I still feel strongly for this other man called Steven. I am bored with my boyfriend who is 10 years older (57) and worry about what it's going to be like in 5-10 years. I'm such a get up and go person and feel when I'm with him that I've been married to him for years. He's a man of routine and Steven the other man in my life wants to experience everything in life. He has always been there for me whereas my boyfriend hasn't.For the first time in my life someone puts me first. Perhaps the distance hasn't helped with Oliver whereas Steven lives in the same town. I'm at rock bottom for knowing what to do for the best and would appreciate some help and advice. It's now affecting my health and work and I need answers. Thank you to anyone out there who can help me. ...
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reader, Paladin  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Whether or not you realize it you answered your own question. You are bored with one and excited by the other and see better compatibility with Steven. Additioanlly, Oliver is geographically a problem and Steven is not. The longer you let this go on the greater the chances Steven may move on so I suggest you spend more time with him and make up your mind.
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