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writes:Me and my bf have been going out for almost eight months now. We usually see each other once a week or more, since he lives in another city (but in the same state.) He just got a car from his mom that she was using for a while, and then he was using it for a bit to come see me, etc. But now he has spent about five days or more trying to fix it. His cell phone is also behaving in a messed up way. We haven't seen each other in a week and a day. I know that is not long, but I am scared that we are going to drift. I've talked to him about fear of him leaving and he says that I have nothing to worry about, but I just don't know. How long do you think I should wait? I don't have a licence or a car, because I can't afford car insurance. I am a full time student who lives in the apartments across from campus. Usually I am not this clingy. I just have insecurities, since before in the past I have met guys who seemed really into me, when in reality, they weren't and they "faded away" from me. How long do you think I should wait for him to come visit me? A bus wouldn't take me as far as he is, and a taxi would probably cost me a lot of money. I don't know what's going on......
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): That's great news! I'm glad things worked out for the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's coming over tomorrow!!!!!!! Yay!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's just weird, because I don't think that I've ever been in a relationship that was this long before (it's a good thing, don't get me wrong, I'm just saying it almost seems as if I am going into uncharted waters....lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks....I'll wait another week. He just called. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I think you're freaking out to early. Just because it's been a week since he has seen you doesn't mean that he suddenly doesn't have feelings for you. Everything he has been telling you may be perfectly legit. Has he ever given you a reason to doubt him? Plus if you are to pushy and by pushy I mean driving all the way out there to make sure he still cares for you, then you'll literally push him away. I mean I'm sure he would appreciate you coming to visit for a change but I wouldn't go just because you fear you're drifting apart. Personally I don't think that's the case here. Plus if he is trying to ditch you by suddenly ignoring you that's not a real man in the first place. That's a boy who is to much of a coward to just come out and say it. Do you really want to be with someone who treats you that way? I really doubt it. But I don't think you have anything to worry about just yet. Take a deep breath and give him some time to get things fixed. (If you don't hear from him in like 2 weeks...then I'd be concerned...if he doesn't have a good reason for not visiting. Since that would be out of the norm for you guys.)
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