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writes: I have met a guy who I think is really incredible, but he lives abroad and we only met for a couple of days when he was here visiting family. He is a student, just finishing a degree this year, and so he is completely broke all the time and can't afford to make long distance calls. We have been emailing and texting each other almost every day, and I have been calling him, but I just can't seem to get him out of my head and concentrate on the things I want to do. He wants to move over here in the summer when his course is finished, but I don't know if I am just getting carried away or not. I spend all my time thinking about him and its driving me crazy. Do you think I am nuts or should I continue to try and keep up a long distance relationship with this guy, even though its only based on a few days we had together?
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (14 March 2006):
 You have to be prepared for a lot of hard work, emotional ups and downs, alot of temptions, lack of phyiscal contact these are just a few things that come with a long distance relationship. there incredible hard and testing. so you have to think if your really ready for a long distance, are you mature enough to be okay with him spending time with other girls, do you think you could handle the fact you could go days without talking him, if he ended up in hopsital you'll never know until he came. if you don't think you handle this then you get out of the relationship before you fall inlove.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 March 2006):
 Has he indicated anything to you about when he moves?
Has he said to you that he is keen to take it further?
You have to be careful in these situations because if you wait for him you run the risk of missing out on seeing someone who could be better or he could meet someone else or he could change is mind and move somewhere else or he simply could have just wanted to stay in touch as friends or if he does move, the spark you had on holiday may be gone.
I would consider all these things and also simply consider getting out there and living your life and if he turns up and wants to take things further, fine. If not, it was not meant to be.
In the meantime, however, I would consider talking to him and seeing what he has in mind before he moves. You don't want to live in a dreamworld and then get a rude shock in a few months.
I would talk to him and then get on with it and live your life.
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