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writes:Hi, well I'm back again haven't posted anything for a while - didn't really feel the need to but know I do. I'm down on my knees begging for your advice.Ok...the guy I'm like 100% head over heels madly in love with is still constantly on my mind. We split up two months ago and since him I have had two relationships (Well you can't really call them relationships) which I had to call off for the same reason and that reason was "I'm still in love with my ex" he's always there in my mind. I've seen him a lot lately I get too scared to look at him so I just glance and sometimes catch him staring at me he does that a lot!!! But I look into his eyes and see nothing. He's so hard to read. When I know where he is I go there on purpose and I KNOW I shouldn't do that, but when I'm not where he is I'm just thinking about him more and wondering what he's doing. Sometimes I feel like I hate him more than words can say but the majority of the time all I feel for him is love. I've kept the necklace he got me and often wear or and when I'm not wearing it I still keep it with me. I tried the whole hiding it away somewhere out of sight but I worried I may lose it. I know this sounds sad, but the other day I noticed he was wearing the chain I got him. He told me he loved it when we were together. Is he wearing it because it reminds him of me and he regrets leaving me with no reason as to why? Or does he just wear it because he thinks it looks good? Please help I had never fell so hard - until he dropped me.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (9 April 2006):
 Well your question
"Is he wearing it because it reminds him of me and he regrets leaving me with no reason as to why? Or does he just wear it because he thinks it looks good?"
I think your over-thinking the fact that his wearing the chain you gave him. he maybe wearing it reminds him of you but then probarbly wearing it because it looks good. (But at least he kept it)
You say he dropped you for no good reason maybe thats something you need to talk to him about. because you can never really get over someone without knowing what was wrong with the relationship. Maybe more time is what you need.
But if you believe that no amount of time or space will help you get over him or move on then you should speak to your ex about that. talk to him and see if theres a chance for you two could renew your relationship.
but if he rejects you, don't hang around, move on. i know you love him but you cnt waoit for him forever
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (9 April 2006):
 Well it sounds like neither of you have any kind of closure on this relationship what-so-ever and the feelings for each other are still very much there. I would say it is likel he is wearing it for that reason purely because of the other things that are going on.
You say he left you for no reason but there must have been one. Maybe he became scared of the depths of the feelings he has for you and ended it in an attempt to preserve himself. That is just speculation but could be one cause of his sudden departure.
I think the key thing you need is to talk to each other and sort this out. I would suggest it to him or try and invite him somewhere neutral where you will both be able to talk openly about how you are feeling and what happened. Go into this with an open mind; it may turn out you can resolve the issue and want to give it another go, it may turn out you cant but at least it still may help you get closure. Try and find out why he left and lay it by ear. Hope that helps.
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