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writes:Hi folks, I suppose I really just wanted some advice. I'm 19 and in my first year at university. Since I started in september, I've begun to get quite close to one of my lecturers - he's in his first lecturing job, only mid twenties and absolutely lovely although a very shy guy.Anyway, we have not yet done anything sexual - it's gone no further than just chatting and flirting but I know he's interested in me (and available). I wanted to know whether this sort of thing is deemed to be acceptable. I want to take our relationship further, but I really don't know whether we would get into trouble for it. Anyone got any experience/advice?
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reader, AperfectSchism  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 I believe that if both of you say that you are interested in each other and a relationship, then you should go for it... BUT be aware of the consequences, like him losing his job (as others have said.)
I hope everything works out for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): Hi, thanks for the quick answers. Obviously I don't want him to lose his job, but gawd I would have to fall for someone impossible! I've read many posts from young girls on here talking about how they're in love with their teacher, even some asking how to seduce married teachers, and I really don't want to be associated with that kind of silly, conniving and immature obsession. It just seems very unfair that if I were to enter into a full on relationship with someone who, if I'd met them anywhere else, no-one would bat an eyelid at me being in a relationship with. What really does suck is that he's likely to be my lecturer for a minimum of another 2 years, as he teaches one of my core modules and although I know it's possible to wait that out, two years IS a long time. Is there no way this can be acceptable?
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 As Flynn 24 said, he could possible lose his job over it. If you really care for him you may want to wait until he's no longer your lecturer, to spare his reputation.
masq
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): As you are close in age, and over the age of consent by a long way, the only thing there is a real risk of is him losing his job.
He is paid to lecture students, not sleep with or date them.
Flynn 24
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