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writes:Well Hello again Aunts and Uncles...Im currently in a situation that Im Happy and Upset at the sametime, as you may know Im currently living with my girlfriend (since January) in my Parents house till she finishes her internship my dad offered her. Everything is great because now my life is more of an open book to her and I feel that Im not hiding anything, we talk a lot after hours and go out on weekends. But the trouble is im currently spending my vacation at home and hence Im home all day.And Im a bit guilty that my girlfriend goes home tired knowing that she knows Ive probably slacked off all day. I've been welcoming her with dinner, picking her up, and surprising her with dates but the sad truth is I can do nothing more for her.And I feel that she might think off me as selfish or lazy, an opinion my friends, ex , and parents thinks and jokes about. Can I do more for her? Because Ive already talked to her about it in a casual conversation and she said that everything is okay. If you were in her stead... would you be okay with this? Thanks for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 June 2016):
 Why do you need to be at home all day? Why not step outside and live your life? Find some hobbies to do, some activities, maybe volunteer to help someone or a group, there is plenty of things you can do to stop you feeling guilty about sitting around all day. The thing is your girlfriend is probably happy enough but you are the one feeling guilty probably because you are bored and you feel useless sitting around. Therefore take control off your life and show her the real you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2016): "Can I do more for her?"
Yes, by doing more for yourself. Find a way to pursue interests you enjoy such as volunteering or summer classes or something of your own creation. That way your days will be full, it will give you something to share with her, it will demonstrate initiative (both to her and your parents), and you'll be less self-absorbed about your perceived inadequacies.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 June 2016):
 If it's just for the summer, like, you just have finished your school year and you'll be starting again in September or whenever, sure, why not. Kudoos to your gf for using her summer to complete an internship, but surely it's not mandatory for everybody.
Ditto if you are between jobs, i.e. if you are taking a few weeks 's vacation before starting your next job or job search or X activity.
If there's a plan lined up, in short.
If you are just at home slacking because you are a natural born slacker, and you do NOT need to rest and regenerate yourself- because normally you do nothing anyway, then no, I would not be ok with it. I think very very few people would be ok with it.
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