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writes: I want to masturbate in front of my husband but I'm not sure how to go about it. Do I talk about it and just straight out ask him if he wants to watch or should I slip into something sexy just be waiting for him when he enters the bedroom and ask him if he wants to stay and watch me play with myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, Thibs2013 +, writes (29 October 2017):
Thibs2013 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your input and I am working on building up my courage to bring up this particular topic in conversation with him and I know he will like it because not long ago we were just having a conversation about sex and whatnot and he made a comment saying "I know you touch yourself and play with yourself and one day you need to let me watch " and I was kinda thrown in the moment and I am pretty much on the shy side especially when it comes to talking about things like that straight forward and I just smiled at him and it's been on my mind since and I was just looking for advice on how other women went about doing it or talking about it especially if anyone is kinda a shy type like myself. Thanks everyone and thanks in advance for any more input
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2017): I’m a woman who has been Married 22 years and my husband is always trying to get me to masterbate and yes I do for him but what turns me on is when I tie him to the bed ( 1st Time was his idea) and do it in his face and yes it excites him. But talk to him communicating is the key in any relationship
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 October 2017):
 I don't think you need to plan this. When you're in bed and if you feel like touching yourself, just go for it. Further explanation is not needed, in my opinion. Just start doing it. Why would you need to ask him or make a big deal out of it? Haven't you ever just started touching yourself while you were in bed together? Just try doing it. It's not big of a deal.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 October 2017):
 That's one of the best and most fun conversations TO have with a spouse! Don't spring it on him. Just one night or day talk to him and tell him you've had a fantasy about having him watch you masturbate. Make it a two-way conversation and ask him if there's something he's ever thought about doing with you that you either have never tried or tried once and had a "misfire" of sorts.
I call conversations like that "sexual brainstorming". Going to an adult store and getting some erotic toys or "how-to" videos (NOT porn!!!!) or even sexy games can really spice things up big time! For example, an adult massage kit is a really good example of enjoying new sensations and flavors.
Unless he has NO pulse, he'll be quite happily intrigued by your desire to do some adventuring with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2017): If your husband is a staunchly conservative kind of guy; who always prefers the "missionary-position" and very little variation. I think you might have to prime him a little; and set the mood for an intimate evening.
My boyfriend got me into doing new things by trading one fantasy for another. We don't do threesomes or farm animals. I will only go so far. I do aim to please!
I think you should create a very romantic setting to sit and talk about sex. Bring up the good-ole days when you used to romp and experiment in the bedroom; like when you first met. That'll warm him up, get him a little sentimental.
Ask him his wildest fantasy to get into his head. Be prepared for what you might hear; and don't forget it's a fantasy! Even if it might be a little shocking.
Then when it's your turn, tell him. It helps to be a little coy; but don't fake-it too hard. He might like his naughty girl! I'm sure he'll get flushed, or slightly caught off-guard.
Never be ashamed of talking about intimacy to your husband. If he doesn't think it's a good idea on the spot; just wait. He may warm-up to it once he has has a chance to wrap his head around it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained! He'll never know if you don't share!
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (22 October 2017):
We don't know your husband: If you don't know how to best initiate masturbating in front of him, we sure can't tell you what he might prefer. But I like your question so I'll give you my opinion...
I believe most men would prefer you introducing it in the bedroom. Start with a quiet and relaxed evening, and things between you are pleasant so that you are both in a sensuous mood. Perhaps have the bedroom a little more sensuous than usual...everything neat, candle light, perhaps some light music. And that sexy outfit you mentioned. Maybe the love-making starts with foreplay...when he goes to touch you "down there", gently brush his hand away and tell him what you want to do. And tell him that if he's a good boy and doesn't interfere, he'll be rewarded afterward.
OK. That's just an idea...you may think that will not work for him or the both of you. If so, follow your intuition on this and make sure it is erotic for you as well as him. In any case, do not leave any room for him taking it as a suggestion that he can't get you off or needs instruction. Make sure he knows that this is solely for pleasure.
Go for it. Sex too often becomes the same-old same-old. If this works out, try some other things, too. Maybe have him get a night a week where he gets to introduce something new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2017): I like the second idea best and I haven't met a man who didn't like to watch that kind of show.
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