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writes:I dont know whats going on with me. Ii hate and love my bf all at the same time so I have decided to leave him for us both. But what happens when they're not there anymore? After coming out of a 2 year relationship in which we are and were very close, what am I supposed to do? I have lost all of my friends because of the relationship. Where do I go because if I'm in and alone all the time I'm going to go crazy, I can see it. Can anyone offer any advice on how to cope with a difficult break up ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Hi.The best thing you can do for yourself is learn to live for yourself first.People need to be a great addition to your life, instead of consuming the majority of it and causing you to avoid your friends and such.Start by keeping VERY busy. You may not want to even get off the couch or out of bed, but force yourself to. Go to a bookstore and read anything to take your mind off of it. Go to a movie. Go paint pottery. Go exercise. Go meet new people (not guys, for now) through www.meetups.com It's a ton of special interest groups and such. Even lean on people you wouldn't normally lean on for support. You would be surprised to find out how many people go through what you're going through.Good luck and chin up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): My sister went through something really similar. My advice to you, first and fore most-accept its over and decide to turn a new leaf for the best. change your surroundings. Go on holiday-doesn't have to be far. Just for a short period of time. You need time to re-discover yourself, decide what you want from life... join the gym-get a new social circle. It'l help. trus me.. theres no time frame on how long it takes to get over someone, but time is a great healer. the world has a alot of happiness to offer, just open ur arms and let yourself realise that.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 You can either reconnect back with your old world or enter a
new world and taste the fresh surroundings.
Rediscover yourself and open your heart to accept new things.
In time , you will forget your problems.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 I'll do my best here with the information you've supplied.The first thing I wonder is why you lost your friends because of the relationship. A relationship that causes you to lose /all/ of your friends does not sound like a healthy one.Regardless of this - it will /always/ be hard coming out of a long term relatonship, because you will be losing someone who is a major part of you life. Be prepared for a period of grieving, but don't let it consume you. Distract yourself - get in contact with old friends, meet new friends, or take up a hobby. Do something different that will take your mind off things, at least for a while.
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