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writes:I am currently enrolled in college. I really dislike school. I cant pay attention in class. I just broke up with the girl of my dreams and I am really sad. The whole reason why I decided to go to college was to be closer to her. Now that its over I dont know why im at school. I dont like the people here except a couple. Every time a see a girl I compare them to her and no one comes even close. Not just looks but personality too. I cant stop thinking of her. and I know there is no possible way she will take me back. My dream was to become a Navy Seal but i decided I would rather be with her then pursue that dream. I honestly dont know why I am at school. I dont see a point too it. So I am considering dropping out and joining the Marines. My parents and I are from a I guess you can say a wealthy community. Where everyone is expected to go to college. Joining the marines or army or anything is not something that is okay with my family. I dont know how this will affect my parents if I bring this up and I dont know how too. I am deciding to just move on with my life. and now I want to do what I want to do. I just dont know how to. Any thoughts? Im lost..
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 September 2011):
 Go with your Dream. You may or may not make it, it all comes down to you. However, joining the military will not mend a broken heart. Being a soldier is a 24/7-365 day a year kind of job, not something you do for sh!ts and grins or because the "girl of you dream" didn't work out.
You need to be 110% sure if you want to join the military. So many guys join because they think it's easier. Military life is not what I would call easy. Let alone the Navy Seals. The passing rate is less then 15% I believe.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 Ultimately it's your life you have to live, not your parents', so you have the responsibility to build your future and career , even in face of possible opposition.
I think though that eventually your parents would respect your decision. Because they want to see you happy, and because after all it's not like you'd be joining the circus.
In my family and social circle too everybody goes to college,but when my son, who has never been the studious type, hesitated before enrolling, and talked about becoming a policeman, not only I did not pressure him, I was actually pleased. When he decided to go to college, I was glad, but I would have been glad about the other option too. Money is important but it's not everything, a lawyer makes more than a cop, but a cop , or a fireman, or a military man, makes something generous and important and brave , which takes a lot of guts, commmittment and discipline.
Oh and btw in case I sound like a warmonger- I am actually a pacifist and against ALL wars, nevertheless I can see how serving your country at the risk of your own life is a
selfless, respectable choice. A parent can disagree, but still be proud of their son.
What worries me more, is that you don't sound so motivated. It's like you went to college just because of that girl- and now you want to join the Marines just out of boredom and loneliness ?
If this is the case, THINK about it very well, don't do anything rush or impulsive.Gone are the times when people joined the Foreign Legion to forget their love troubles.
It's your future you are putting on the line- in a very literal way- so make sure first it's not just a passing fancy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 September 2011):
If your dream was to be a Navy SEAL, then perhaps you should follow that. We all have our dreams, and when we're lost sometimes those dreams can be the answer. My mother was desperate for me to go to university. But I never saw the point, so I didn't. It was a very good decision of mine, because even I'm struggling to actually find work because of this damned recession, at the very least I'm trying to follow up on my dream, and I have seen some movement.
Before you can be a SEAL though, you need to be sure that's what you want. Remember that military tests are geared to find out your mental state. So if you're unhappy or lost, that will show up and you won't get in. It seems like that's what you want to do though, so I say if you're sure, go join the military.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (17 September 2011):
 This is not your parents life,its your life. I have made the mistake of giving up a career path for a boyfriend and it was just as much of a mistake. If you want to join the marines then JOIN THE MARINES. If you don't and do what you family wants, it is you who will be filled with regret. Don't live that life. The military pays for ur education by the way and you can still get the education you think you are expected to have and be in the marines. GO JOIN its what you want and its obvious
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