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writes:when i met a boy it all goes well until they met my friend and then they fancy her. i dnt knw wat im doin rite. i knw this shouldnt be happin because she my friend and friends should always cum before boys but im startin to hate her 4 it. what should i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): If she is not flirting with them or dressing up to attract their attention well then it really is not her fault she is very attractive! it be sad to end a freindship over something she cannot help. You will have to work on yourself and realize the guy for you will not be looking at other girls when your right there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): i think im that friend youre talking about...because my friends say that about me..dont be mad at her because she probably isant doing it on purpose...i kno i wasnt.my friend was very jealous of me and because my boyfriend didnt ask her out first she tryed to sleep with him when we got together ...but that didnt work...were not friends now and thats sad.and it hurt when your best friend hates you and you care for her.. so dont hate her just find someone who really likes you they r out there.. you already got some good awnsers but im tha other point of view
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Keep introdusing guys to her. I know its really annoying, but its really the perfect set-up. She works as a tester for who really care about YOU, and who don't. If a boy/man is into YOU then he will be able to ignore your friends charm and stay LOYAL. After all, you can prevent a man from meeting your friend (to some degree), but you can not prevent him from meeting other women who are just as charming. When you are not around, a man will meet others... and your friend is not the only charmer in the world. But, if a man can ignore her and still choose you, you know he is a keeper!
Not all men love the same. There will come a man who loves you and can't stand beein in the same room as your friend...
On the side note: my ex's best friend was this kind of a guy who had several women hanging around him, everyone thought he was so handsome and good looking, and he had a stunning girlfriend, and after they broke up he had several lovers at once all waiting for him.. he was quite popular. But I didn't find him attractive, I didn't even like him. I thought my bf at that time was 10 times better, if not more. So: a charmer can have plenty of attention, but not everyone is interested!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 If you hang out with her often, it will always happen that way.The only way is to hang out with those that are not as good or as beautiful as you are.Time to change who you hang out with.The other way is not to let the boys meet her until you are on stronger grounds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): Dear Anonymous,
I grew up with a friend who was always fancy'd just a little more. She and I were and still are the best of friends, but she always craved attention. It bothered me for some time, but why are they flocking to her? Is she easy? Do they know that? Fact is, today I am happy loving life, my own house, a sexy man that wasn't looking for the thrill and though I love my dear friend, she is to his day insecure, jumping relationship to relationship, and may look happy on outside with that glam and show, but cries to me on the phone. That says enough. If attention is what you want, maybe in your next outing let her go ahead, meet her there. When you arrive where ever it is.... you be sure to look your best, leave room for those guys to want more, don't be sticky with the guys, and demand confidence. You walk into a room with confidence it says a lot. Don't cling to your friend, have her look for you. Randomly walk away and stir up conversations with other people she wouldn't expect. . .She will follow to seek the attention :) Always be a friend though.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 well does she flirt or do anything to attract these guys even though she knows you like them? because if that is the case then she's a bad friend..however...if she isn't doing that then you shouldn't be upset with her, she can't help it if guys like her. Perhaps you shouldn't let your boyfriends meet this girl until you and your boyfriend are more serious and in love. I know how you feel though but then this is what I did to fix it. I have a friend who is totally gorgeous and guys always went for her before me. The way I saw it is that these guys were shallow or they just werent the ones for me. Be patient. I didn't end my friendship with my friend, i turned my jealousy into something better. I looked at myself and decided to like me and build my confidence, because that is what it comes down to: confidence. Although I know its hard to feel confident when you are constantly second best to your friend. Maybe join a dating site online, it does build confidence because you will get messages from guys telling you how beautiful you are and perhaps you'll meet someone there. now i wonder if you're talking about guys you both initially meet at the same time or if you meet a guy and go on dates and then once they meet your friend you get shoved to the side? Or are these your boyfriends that you thought you were in love with that meet this friend then dump you for her? just remember that you are beautiful and that all you need is confidence, if these guys can't see you're great then they are not worth your time.
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