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anonymous
writes:i've been with my boyfriend for three years now and i thought i loved him with all my heart. In my eyes he could do no wrong, hes gorgeous funny trustworthy and my best friend in the world. The only problem in the relationship was that he can't handle his drink. When he's been on a might out he'll ring me telling me he loves me and wants to see me but then starts an argument with me. It's the same if were out together, he'll find a reason to fall out with me when he's drunk and the next morning won't remember anything of what was said. Its happened more times than i can count and i always let it go because he seems genuinely sorry. It happened again last weekend and once again couldnt remember what happened. I finally had the courage to tell him it was getting too much for me and it can't keep happening. I even told him i contemplated ending things which i never thought i'd admit. Since then he's been really getting on my nerves, i don't want to be too close to him and small things he does annoys me. Could this be down to me admitting my real feelings about his behaviour? I don't want to lose him but right now i don't think i can be around him either. Please help guys!
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reader, crmcorn65  +, writes (11 February 2010):
You don't want to put yourself through this for the rest of your life. It will be very hard to leave him after 3 years, but you have to do it for your own sake. I'm speaking from experience. It only gets worse. Would you want to marry and have kids with this man? Think about how it could be having a drunk around kids-they can get hurt. It happens too often. They are always sorry. They turn on the charm because they know it gets you back. Break up now. I know people that are married, separate, go back, and do it again and again for years. Break up with him, keep busy 24 hours a day and you will eventually get over him. You're young-you don't want to still be going through this at 50-it never stops.
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