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writes:why is that my boyfriend gets drunk all the time he is only 34 he is a truck driver? he wakes up looking for something to drink everyday and wonder why our relationship has gone sour he blames for everything he is really in denial about his drinking.Im not going to blame it on the alcohol but he told me he doesnt want me anymore and that i was dumb and thats why we dont go places together and we barely sleep together and he also told me he does stuff so i will kick him out the only thing i done was really love this man and im very affectionate i like being held and he told me im invading his private space he dont like me under him all the time it hurts so bad he just asked me to move with him to atlanta just the other day now he says he dont want me to go i dont know what to do i know i need to leave him but i love him and i dont want to be alone i mean why did he drag me alone this long i feel like a fool cause he still here after i told him to leave since u dont want me i feel like i cant get nobody else please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks max d i really do need a break from him thanks for that wonderful advice
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reader, MAX D  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Dear friend,
Its obvious from your letter that your boyfriend has seriously become addicted to drinking.
I am to sorry to have to tell you but the fact of the matter is that unless he realizes and accepts that he has a problem there is not much you can do.
Unfortunately it can be a waiting game as to how long it takes him to realize the way his life is going.
Its also possible that he is not ready to accept the fact that he has a problem with alcohol.
I do understand that you do not want to be alone and that you have put alot of time and effort into the relationship which stops you from just walking away.
If you feel strong enough and able to finish with him for the moment and by doing this hopefully he will get a wake up call and realize how much you mean to him.
By temporarily ending it with him, it will also give you a chance to see things clearly.
I would suggest a cooling off period of at least three months. Be there for him as a friend if he needs you but take a backseat relationship wise.
Hope it has been a help to you and let me know how things work out.
Your Friend,
Max D
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