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writes:I have a rather complicated question, to be honest I think I am looking for reassurance rather then an answer.I have struggled for a few years with my mental health due to this I decided not to interact romantically with men,I knew that I was vulnerable and didn't want to deal with unavoidable regret.I am currently much improved and I feel I made the right decision to not only protect my heart but also my body. As the years passed I realized I wanted to wait for the right man before becoming physical, I didn't want to share myself with a string of lovers just one man.Recently however I have been told that this was fantastical that I would eventually get bored and want get other people.I struggle with the concept of falling in love, the fear of being hurt all over again when I have opened up emotionally now this opinion is in my mind.Is my decision not possible will I eventually get bored or I am right to follow my belief? I don't know why but I am very worried about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): Thank you both for the advice. I'd didn't and still don't have any intention of acting on my doubt.
This opinion triggered a deep set fear and weighed heavy on my mind. Although I still do worry a bit both of you're reassurances are a comfort.
Thank you very much, I always felt that I needed trust and security before becoming intimate both emotionally and physically, I don't know why this opinion upset me so much.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Whoever told you such an ostentatious lie should be ignored! They are trying to encourage a sort of indifference to a divine emotion and action such as love in a committed relationship is evil! You were and still are very, very right indeed. Your desire is not fantastical at all. If you love someone, you cannot simply 'get bored' with them, they are not a plaything, they are not a hobby of some sort. You are free to love without fear.
I hope that helps.
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reader, MAX D +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Please do not listen, to whoever told you thisthey more than likley have not beening through what you have in your firht against depresion.You are a very brave person,and no you will not get bored with one person just take you time and get to know that person that you form a relationship and things will be fine.Take care and I hope that I have beening some help to you,let me know how you get on take care for now.MAX D.
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