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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 months. He went on vacation for a week to FL and has been updating his Facebook with pictures and statuses, but has not contacted me (no calls/texts). It literally takes 10 seconds to send a text or 2 minutes to make a brief call, and it's not like he is THAT busy, he is lounging at the beach, drinking and partying. He has nationwide cell service and internet access so that is not an excuse. For me, I wouldn't even care if he told me he wasn't going to communicate with me while on vacation, but let me know as a heads up! Usually, we speak at least once a day/text each other, or sometimes we go a day or so without communicating but really not longer than that. I'm intend to let it go until he comes back and see when/if he contacts me. I am not in any means clingy - I am independent and doing my own thing keeping busy like always. I respect his vacation is for relaxing and don't really expect him to call/text me everyday but I sort of think this is a red flag. That maybe our relationship is not as strong/he is not attached to me or that he might be doing something that he shouldn't (i.e.) cheating by seeing ex girlfriends/other girls.What should I do? Should I reach out and call him or send a friendly little text? But I feel like if I do, he won't respond or pick up and I will end up feeling worse. Or should I just let it go, like I was planning to do because I am a bit offended/stubborn!What happens if he comes back and contacts me like nothing? My boyfriend lacks social graces and is wrapped up into himself, and perhaps that is just him which I have to accept or move on.Or maybe he won't even contact me when he comes back from vacation....Your opinions/advice is much appreciated!
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Hi,You have the right to feel this way. I agree with what you are saying here. Ok, he's on vacation, wants to relax, have a good time, etc. But, a text or phone call don't take much. Don't make any conclusions until you see or talk to him. Who knows what he's doing? Maybe, he's just enjoying his vacation, not cheating at all.. So don't judge, make decisions, accuse him...The only problem here so far is that you are his girlfriend of 10 mos, so by him not even bothering to just say hi to you is plain rude, and no matter what, no excuses...I hope you can work things out with your boyfriend, sorry that you feel angry... I completely understand you, and don't think you are being insecure or clingy at all. You are right!!!Good luck and feel better
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): Sounds like he is having a holiday from you as well...I do find it odd he hasn't contacted you but has updated his status etc on FB.
Maybe leave a message on there saying looks like fun...I dont know about being worried it depends on what his usual contact is like, but after 10 months dating you would think a quick call would be forthcoming.No harm initiating as you are his girlfriend.
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