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writes:Hi there!I've got a wonderful job in London which I'm very excited about, but my boyfriend of 3 years has decided to do a masters degree for another year at the university we were both at (a good 8 hour train journey from London).I obviously have limited holiday with my job so am nervous about not seeing him much.Can anyone offer any advice for a long distance relationship where one person is still at university but the other is working an office job in London?Any similar situations or general advice would be great! Xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2016): You need to have a plan. That is, ok for now we are doing this but our plan is in 1 or 2 years time to do 'X' or 'Y'. Just drifting along in a long distance relationship is not going to work because it is really tough to self-generate commitment to the future when the present is a little 'empty'. I am already a little concerned that you are going to be earning and he is studying. Your priorities and opportunities are not on the same page and your differing lifestyles may also impact on this LDR. You might not know how this will go until you are in it but you need to be focused on the same end goal and put measures in place to enable that to happen.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 September 2016):
 Well you have been together three years, so at least you both are in a long term relationship. Am not going to lie, it is very difficult, not seeing each other, not knowing what the other is doing, it can be very draining. You both will need to work hard for it to work out. But it can be done, and if it is only for a year at least you can make plans following that. Plus he will have holidays from Uni and am sure you can both meet every couple of weeks at the weekends.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (8 September 2016):
 I'm in an LDR and they're not easy. However, video chatting helps, regular phone calls are good, planning visits is nice, etc.
They're very hard, but they can be successful - especially when you know it's just for a year.
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