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*lessing80
writes:My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship now but not up to a year, truly when we first started I did not have feelings for him but wit time that we both get to know each other so well that I fall for him. after like three month of our dating he started demanding for sex which I told him DAT am not ready for it that I am still a virgin which he believed me. I don't normally feel the urge for sex if kisses or romance me but I did not let him know about it thinking that I will try and make it up to him. but still telling me that am just pro longing matter on sex that no mater wot happen am still going to have sex with him (which am not even ready for). I went to his house for a sleep over on sunday which is Valentine's day( and that was my first time to sleep in a guy's house,am just a girl of 20yrs old) to cut all d whole story short he demanded for sex but I refused I know it weird to stay alone with a guy in a room( I did that because he really pleaded with me for a sleep over) at the long process we starting romancing as usual but suddenly he started acting so strange that he was now trying to have his way in like forcing himself on me but stop him, now am just so confused I don't know why he changed all of a sudden and instead of him to apologize for what he did all he told me was is it a big deal to have sex with is girlfriend and moreover his is not even sure if am a virgin or not or not. since that incident I refuse to pick his calls. please am really lost here I don't know what to do may to leave him or make him realize his mistake I just don't know how to go about it. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2016): I totally agree with what everybody else wrote.
You were a bit naive to think he just wanted a sleep over with no sex, but it certainly was wrong of him to try and force you!
However, in the future if you want to preserve your virginity with a different man, maybe you should consider giving BJ's or at least HJ's? Most men usually won't date for long periods without some release from their GF.
Best of luck!
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reader, blessing80 +, writes (17 February 2016):
blessing80 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really do appreciate your advice. Thanks all.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 February 2016):
 You should stay away from him, he sounds dangerous. He tried to force himself on you, and he tries to manipulate you into sex and doesn't respect you. Stay away from him before he gets his way with you against your will. He sounds dangerous. I know you care about him, maybe even love him. Love makes you blind. A man can still be a bad man, even if you love him. Your love for him will not make him treat you right.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 February 2016):
 Could you call your mother on her phone and tell her what is happening? Or even call your sister and tell her you need her help am sure she will make time for you. If not is there an adult you work with? Maybe see a professional?
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reader, blessing80 +, writes (17 February 2016):
blessing80 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice. my parents are far from me and my sister that is closer to me she's just a busy type so I have no one to talk to
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (17 February 2016):
Sweetie I think you should leave this guy. This is a very serious matter. No guy should ever force himself on to a girl, that is a very serious matter. I am glad you where able to stop him, but who knows what will happen the next time, you may not be able to stop him. I think you need to talk to a trusted adult about what happened, as am sure this was a very scary experience for you. Can you talk to your mother? Someone you are close to? You need to stay away from this man, he is dangerous. He doesn't love you, he just wants sex from you. He doesn't care about your feelings or that you are not ready he is very selfish.
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reader, Beautiful Angel  +, writes (17 February 2016):
My dear, if you knew you would not have sex with him then why sleep over? The guy does not love you, because if he did he wouldn't force himself on you. All he wants is sex, you're neither a sex machine. He will dump you after getting what he wants. Forget him cuz you're better off without him.
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