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writes:my boyfriend admitted to me he likes his best friend.... he admits to me he always has.. they hang out all the time, and he promises he won't do anything with her... and that he LOVES me and only likes her... i've had alot of relationships where i've been cheated on... but.... should i trust this one...? please, i need some help
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reader, Jesc +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Hey Older Sister hit it on the dot!
Personally I am a pretty rude person in my past with boyfriends who did that, Cause it never ended well when I held on.
I would just break up with him (Even if you have strong emotions) Older Sister is right either way you look at it. How can you trust him? He is not being trustWORTHY. You could try to talk to him, Let him know that you have had problems in the past and he should respect you enough to make boundaries with his friend. Yet I doubt that will even happen, most guys do not like being told or even asked that from them.
In the past my partner(then and now) and I had a thing for each other for a loooong time. He had a best friend who was a girl which I didn't care as long as it was "friends". Well around the first month of our dating he started to tell me he use to be in love with her, they dated she didn't want that.etc.
Well it set me off. He wanted to spend alone time with her before, I drove him 45 min out of my way so he could hang out with her. I just should have know feeling struck me. BUT I never left them alone. I just didn't trust the manner of it. So I talked to him, I did not want to lose him but if he did not change then I had no problem of dropping him like a bad habit.(Rather shed a few tears now, then pick up pieces of a broken heart later). I asked him to end this friendship with her cause there was no way he could just keep it on a friend basis. Even to this day (Been together for about 2 years) I am glad from the choice I made.
If you feel that maybe you two have a strong something then I suggest you talk to him about how you feel. Please be safe and keep your chin up.
Good Luck to you.
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