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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am so confused about a guy that I like.He is very good looking and athletic, he works at the gym I go to and is about the same age as me.I started going to this gym about six months ago to lose weight and I noticed him looking at me several times. I dismissed these looks as anything other than sympathy for the fat girl as I thought who would want to look at me (I was very insecure about my extra weight). But his looks turned to stares and we could pick each other out of the crowded gym just with eye contact.A few weeks later he came up to me and said hello and asked me if I was ok. I was so shocked that I just stared at him with a smile and said a brief hello before walking into the changing rooms. Maybe not the best way to handle the situation but all i could manage at the time.Anyway the next day he saw me and smiled as though he was really really happy to see me. For some stupid reson I put my head down and ignored him as I was just so scared about showing my true feelings. I felt awful and he looked really hurt and confused. I didn't see him for about a week after that and when I did, I smiled at him and said hi. He said hi to me again but seemed shy and more reserved. We continued to look at each other for the next few weeks and I would smile at him when I saw him but he would just stare at me. It was very strange and I was very confused. I lost heart and we didn't see each other for a few weeks. When i went back to the gym he seemed so different to how i had perceived him. He was more confident but in an overly confident way and seemed to hang around all of the girls more acting very playfully. I hated this so just stopped staring at him and he stopped staring at me. Then about a month later we started to notice each other again but he seemd to act strange around me. He would act like a fool dancing and singing in the gym with his work mates, and sometimes pretend to ignore me but then glance at me when he thought i couldn't see him. This went on and on and on and now I am at breaking point! How much can you really tell from body language and looks? I really like him but I am fed up with this game that we seem to be playing. I am thinking of joining a new gym and moving on. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Message for Laura: You are saying he doesn't have any guts .. you could say the same thing for the woman too. That's not right in this day and age of equality to blame men for not approaching women, the fault is also with the woman for not having the courage to approach the man. This is the 21st century and not the 20th century. You want more than equal rights and eat your cake too, eh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Just go over and ask him for his name. If you like him and you don't make a move, you have only yourself to blame. If you both like each other and you don't make a move, it's your fault as well, and not just only the man's fault.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 He seems interested but he has no guts to approach you for a date.It is called , loving from a distance.If you are interested, you could initiate the meetings and chat .
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