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writes:Okay my fiance and I fool around alot. We do alot of kinky things. We have not had sex yet though. When he is fingering me or something I think he gets to rough maybe. Because now the my insides kinda hurt it only hurts on one side though.I am hoping it is not a cyst again. Those where painful. Also we have had anal since we dont wanna do it the other way yet. I dont think it hurts as bad as people say it does but I guess everyone is different?But when I use the bathroom it does hurt and I bleed when I well um poo. Will this pass if we stop for a while?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): First question, why aren't you having vaginal sex? Especially if he is your fiance. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, not a finger job. Stop doing anal, at least until you go to a doctor to make sure you don't have an infection. If pregnancy is an issue, buy condoms or go to Planned Parenthood, I think they will give you some for free, my but is hurting just thinking about your situation.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 January 2010):
 First of all I think you are fooling yourself if you think having ANAL sex isn't having sex.
Secondly, if you bleed when you have anal sex you need to stop. Let your poor bum heal and find some decent lube. Make sure that the two of you know what you are doing. The rear (unlike your vagina) do NOT have natural lube, so it is essential that you use lube.
Also - if you keep bleeding when you go poo, see your doctor. If you have a tear it is VERY easy for you to get an infection.
If your BF fingers you in the vagina, you need to watch out for several thing such as hangnails and dirty fingers. A lot of people have really bad personal hygiene when it comes to fingers, even if you think they don't. Also it is very easy to get the inside scratched if he have sharp nails.
Why not slow down there a bit.. Sex should be enjoyed, not something you need medical care for afterwards..
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (20 January 2010):
 More Lube!
And, give it a rest for a while. And, yes see the doctor like caring guy said. Don't worry Doctors have seen it all. You may have a small tear or a hemorrhoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): You are having sex. Just not vaginal sex. As it is causing internal injuries stop doing it and try vaginal sex. It isnt uncomfortable and if done with someone who is respecting your body..as they should..it wont cause you any injuries
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): You should stop if you are suffering abdominal pain and rectal bleeding. If either condition persists, consult you doctor
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reader, NM1218 +, writes (20 January 2010):
When starting anal,it be slow so as not to be painful.Anal is different than vaginal.Anyways I would not see how fingering you could hurt your insides,maybe you can ask him to do it slow so as not to cause pain.But you should definitely have this checked out as soon as possible!Find out what the problem is,and if there is a cyst somewhere in the area.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
It sounds to me like you're putting your body through a really rough time. I think you should speak to the doctor to rule everything out.
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