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writes: I need help and i need it badly. i love my bf and he loves me too but our love story has taken a filmy twist.he had an affair for four years before he met me an intense affair they broke up due to some misunderstandings.we have been together for a while and he told me that he wanted to clear the misunderstandings wth his ex before he tied the knot wth me i thought it was perfectly ok to do that. now he has come to know that she is still waiting for him she is in a mess and only he can help her out. i dont want to spoil her life too what should i do?he is sticking to the stand of being wth me but will it affect our future in any way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy situation is still the same heis still with her and however hard i try its difficult for me to digest that.
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reader, ButterflyonFire +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Well, I think it is good that he is being open and honest with you about his past. Since you know about this do you know what the "misunderstandings" are?
I think it's time for her to move on since he evidently is ready to marry you. If he wants to help her out of w/e bind she is in. Hopefully he will do it and get her out and away for good.
Not to be mean or anything, but your with him now and if he needs to go and clear his concoince then he should do it and then put it in the past. I hope everything works out for you.
~Jamie
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (8 October 2006):
Did your bf ever tell you these misunderstandings? I think that although you are not really at ease with your bf talking to your ex theres not really much you can do to stop him. Yourn going to have to just trust him to get rid of his unfinished business as he as said he wants to marry you and probably just wants a clean break with nothing from his past in his future. Relax cook him a meal get out the wine and tell him how much you love him and cant wait to spend the rest of your life with him. Say that you understand what he has to do and you are there if he needs you. If he realises you are his rock then he and you will be able to put his ex in the past where she belongs you are is future concentrate on that.
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