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I am so shy and it is causing my loneliness...

Q.   I have no one to love, I feel so lonely. There was this one guy That I really liked, I gave him my number, that ended becuase he never called me. I am a really shy girl, and I find it hard to talk to any guy I really like, I am 19, and me being shy ...

A.   10 December 2006: There is absolutely nothing wrong with how you are. I think everyone is shy at some point in there lives. You need to relax the man of your dreams will come along all in good time you cant rush these things i should know ive been single for four ... (read in full...)

My new man and I just don't click sexually! Help!

Q.   I had sex with my new boyfriend a few nights ago and I didnt enjoy it. Ive just come out of a long term relationship (3years), infact I kinda left my X for him. Ive spent months dreaming about our first time together but it didnt go as well as I ...

A.   10 December 2006: Hunny you need to relax cos by the sounds of it you were probably a little nervous with it being a experience with e new guy. Next time you want to have sex play some soft music spritz your fave perfume that makesyou feel sexy and have a glass or ... (read in full...)

He dropped off two dozen red rose for everyone at work but he doesn't have much to do with anyone but me!!

Q.   I work at a tanning salon and i've became pretty friendly with customers and got to know a lot. One customer, is very sweet and loves to talk to me, and helps me when i need advice, and the other day i went to get my paycheck and he walked in and ...

A.   22 October 2006: Them roses are his way of showing his affection yes i mean why would you give a tanning salon roses? I think you know deep down they were meant to be a sign but you chose to think it wasnt to stop yourself getting hurt. Speak to the guy next time... (read in full...)

Invited to two parties! Which one do I choose?

Q.   hey, about 2 or 3 weeks ago i was invited to a girls halloween party and i said i would go... but yesterday i found out that my best friend was having a party on the same day for his birthday. what should i do?... im going to have to pick one but i ...

A.   22 October 2006: I agree with the other person go to both make an apperance at both.... (read in full...)

I really try to make this relationship work is it really worth it??

Q.   I really dunno y this keep happening to me.i try to make this relationship work , i work really hard i have never ever complained but he never seem to understand me.is it really worth it? if he leaves me i have literally no where to go and he knows ...

A.   22 October 2006: You cant stay with this guy just cos you have nowhere else to go i know that your scared about not having anywhere to go but you cant keep your feelings inside and hope they will dissapear they wont unless you talk about them. You have to take the ... (read in full...)

What's the average size of an adult erect penis?

Q.   What's the average size of an adult erect penis? I measured myself and I'm 6 1/4 inches long (measured from the top) and 4 1/2 inches around. Am I considered average size, bigger than average, or smaller than average?...

A.   20 October 2006: the average size is about 5 inches most men lie about thier penis size and your probably telling the truth but most men say there 6-7 inches which in some cases is true but some not as if men arnt well endowed they lie as there conscious. But yes ... (read in full...)

I am still worried I could be pregnant even though I just finished a period...what's happening with me?

Q.   Ok, I've been sexually active since 22nd of July this year, I've had my period every month since. I've always suffered from menhorration- bleeding heavily each month and this has not changed. I had a pregnancy scare in September, which thankfully...

A.   20 October 2006: Are you on the pill what precautions did you use? if you use the pill and you are taking properly then there is no reason you should be pregnant. I personally think you should consult your doctor for a proper diagnosis. It would be the best thing to ... (read in full...)

I'm attractive and work hard at pleasing my husband...so why is our sex life the pits?

Q.   My husband and I are in our late twenties. I am 27, he's 28. Married two years and I guess I have been denying many things about our marriage/relationship for too long. I dont believe i am a supermodel but I have been told by other men, male ...

A.   18 October 2006: It is common for peoples sex lifes to go out the window after a few years of marriage. I cant imagine how frustrating and upset you feel right now as i think sex is part of the closeness you need to feel as a couple. ... (read in full...)

I don't feel like I am a big enough part of her life....Am I wrong for thinking this?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years now. We have had on and off periods. The other day when I was at her apartment I counted 24 picture frames about, however I am only in 1 frame. I have told her many times I dont feel like I am a big ...

A.   18 October 2006: what does it matter if theres is only one picture at least there is a picture! So long as your in her heart why should anything else matter. Speak to her find out how she feels.... (read in full...)

Whats the definition of a "break" ?

Q.   What exactly is the definition of a "break" What can and cant you do while in one? Thanks =)...

A.   17 October 2006: A break is a short seperation period between you and a partner. If you wanted to see someone else in this time you would be free to do so as you are seperated. ... (read in full...)

Does this mean that I am related to the guy I've fallen for ?

Q.   I don't know what to do, I think I may be related to this guy that I've fallen for. So if you can understand this, please tell me if we're related or not. He is my: Dad's uncle's wife's sister's son. So, my Dad has an uncle named "...

A.   17 October 2006: No your not related my blood so just get on with it!... (read in full...)

What does the saying..."dont wear your heart on your sleeve" mean?

Q.   when this thing happened between the guy i like, in my catering course, two weeks ago, he found out that i like him and somthing happened, as the guys mate, who is also my mate. well the guy i like his mate came over and said stop staring at him, ...

A.   16 October 2006: it means dont give you heart too easily otherwise you could get hurt.... (read in full...)

He hasn't orgasmed inside me for ages and always wants me to finish him off, orally or with my hand. Why is this???

Q.   Hi there -this is one for the guys. Any help gentlemen would be very much appreciated! And women too of course, if you can offer advice! I have been with my boyfriend over two years, and we have always had a pretty good sex life - though not as ex...

A.   16 October 2006: most men love to cum inside the vagina so this is quite a tough one! have fore play before hand and then take control and tel him u want him inside you and when he does tell him not to stop as its so amazing and clench your pelvic muscles when hes ... (read in full...)

I see a future fir us, he takes this day by day..any hope we'll make it?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and two months now. I'm 17, and he's almost 20. (The age difference isnt that bad) But I keep thinking about our future together, getting married, having kids, getting a house, and he says ...

A.   16 October 2006: a lot of men tend to want to think of only the present as thinking about the future too much scares them. Dont pressure him too much about it and relax what will be will be. ... (read in full...)

I feel like I can't do anything right at the moment!!!

Q.   I feel quite insecure recently i feel like i cant do anything right and i cant get what i want. For example ive failed my driving test 4 times and im due to go in for it again soon but i want it so badly and i wonder if thats why i keep failing ...

A.   13 October 2006: Hi all, well im taking kalms at the moment to see if they help i dont feel much different at the moment can anyone suggest anything else that might calm my terrible nerves?... (read in full...)

My bf works soo hard at his father's business and it's affecting our relationship! Can we save our relationship?

Q.   Me and boyfriend who are a young couple are coming up to our 2year anniversary. We live together and have done so for the last year although when I first met him he was a full time cricketer which I really liked as he was very carefree, had al...

A.   12 October 2006: I think your relationship has the potential to be saved but he needs to cut down those hours at work and you need to be the one to tell himto do that not just for your relationship but think of his health aswell 60hour weeks is a dreadful amount of ... (read in full...)

I climax, but do not ejaculate sometimes. What is the problem?

Q.   I am 45 years old and have sex 4 - 5 times per week. My problem is that i do reach climax, but I do not ejaculate a few times....

A.   12 October 2006: erm there could be may reasons why you dont ejaculate and you probably already know the possibilities of why you might not. 4-5 times a week is quite a lot the average person has it 2 times a week so your quite sexually active so the fact that you ... (read in full...)

Why does my man lose his erection? How can I help him keep up?

Q.   Dear Cupid, My new man seems to lose his hard-on before sex or during. Is there something I am doing wrong - perhaps I am not turning him on enough? I have never experienced this with a guy before. he is only in his 20's also so not affected by ...

A.   12 October 2006: I dont think its you, he could be nervous which sometimes interferes, i know you said you dont think there could be anything wrong due to his age but maybe the doctor could prescribe viagra which could make his erection last longer.... (read in full...)

He Doesn't have time for me since he started new job and now all we seem to do is have sex!!!!

Q.   Since my boyfriend has got his new job, plus on top of that working on some of the weekend to, he doesn't come around nowhere near as much as he use to which was just about every day til he got this new job.But the thing is now to me, that he can ...

A.   12 October 2006: If thats all you do have sex does he initiate the sex his he the one that comes on to you every time cos if hes does there is something fishy about that. You need to put your foot down and ask him to go out with you for a meal or to the cinema or ... (read in full...)

We are growing apart but I don't want to let go...can this relationship actually work??

Q.   i'm met my boyfriend 3 years ago when i was 17. Recently we have started to grow apart. Things have changed as we have got older and it has effected us more than we ever thought it would. We've both admittd that we have felt unhappy within the last ...

A.   12 October 2006: I was sixteen when the same thing happened to me and we grew apart and split when i was 18 but even though i loved him more than anything when i look back i now it was the right decision for both of us. But it might be totally different for you and ... (read in full...)

I'm wet so why don't I actually feel that horny???

Q.   Sometimes when im having sex with my bf, although im wet down stairs, i dont really feel that horny. Why would i sometimes feel that way? ...

A.   12 October 2006: because your not as excited as normal i think when you feel horny your heart rate changes and you go tingly when you see them. Try not to think about it too much and do something that will make you horny pull out handcuffs and blindfold your ... (read in full...)

I neglected her while I was working alot so I cut down and now she is neglecting me....what can I do???

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 and a bit years of which we have been engaged for 7 and 10 months. We have always loved each other so very much. We still laugh at each others jokes and have fun. Even say the same things at the same ...

A.   12 October 2006: I had a tear when i read your story its really sweet. Your girlfriend needs to feel secure and so do you and you need to talk to her i think if you love this girl and you want to make you and her realise how serious you are about your relationship ... (read in full...)

She left me, I still love her. I help her a lot so do you think she is using me?

Q.   Im stuck between rock and hard place.An update on my situation (my girlfriend and son left me while i was at work)is im seeing my son often.But im rearranging everything to fit in her schedule that she doesn`t want to explain. Im trying to help and ...

A.   11 October 2006: you do have to tread carefully as she might threaten to not let you see your son. Ask her if she can use the phone a bit less as your struggling with the phone bill and as for food ask her why she hasnt already eaten.... (read in full...)

He stayed at her house and his excuses were pretty weak. What's he really up to..any advice?

Q.   Need advice. Don't know if I am being cheated on, or if I am just in denial of the whole situation. My man and I have been together for over 3 years. We got pregnant early on in the relationship and unfortunately our daughter was stillborn at 36 ...

A.   11 October 2006: Im sorry to tell you this but he is more than likely lying to you about this whole situation. He has probably had a fling with this girl got her pregnant and now hes trying to cover his tracks. From what youve said it dosent seem like this will ... (read in full...)

I'm confident and love talking. So why do I feel shy in front of this guy I like?

Q.   Normally, I'm usually loud and confident whilst talking to my friends...but this guy who I have a crush on...I just can't talk much in front of him. And I feel really shy and stuff...Can anyone give me some tips on how to act normal? ...

A.   11 October 2006: How your acting is how all us women act from time to time it dosent matter what age you are if theres a guy we really like we get nervous and tingly around them. The best thing i cant suggest is to get yourself looking gorgeous so you feel confident ... (read in full...)

How can I move forward when there are so many unanswered questions?

Q.   Hello, i have very recently split from my husband of 7 years and am having real difficulty coming to terms with it. The main problem is that although we discussed and agreed to start trying for a baby during 2006, he has now (10 weeks ago) decided ...

A.   9 October 2006: You need to call him and tell himyou need to speak to him and ask himto come round. You need to both speak openly like adults about your marriage and whether you both want to still work at it. ... (read in full...)

Attracted to my ex's friend, should I start a relationship with him?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 26 year old woman and I broke up with my ex-boyfriend three years ago. At the moment we are good friends. I had a fling with his friend after we broke up three years ago. I never spoke about this even to his best friend. We all hang out ...

A.   9 October 2006: If you get into a relationship with his best friend then if your ex finds out he will more than likely fall out with his best friends as there is a rule and it is never date you ex boyfriends best friends its the same with girls how would you like ... (read in full...)

What does not being "in touch" indicate?

Q.   If a person that you have a relationship with, apologises for not being "in touch" and the reason is that they have been absolutely swamped at work. Does this mean that they are not interested in you anyomore or do not want to speak to you for some ...

A.   9 October 2006: It could just mean that they have actually just been busy at work, dont read too much into what people say to you theres not always a hidden meaning half the time people just say what they mean.... (read in full...)

I am 16 and my parents are trying to stop me from going back to my abusive ex. Do I have rights?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend split around .. 2 months ago he cheated on me alot and hit me and treated me bad. I was ok we didnt see each other or speak, i met osmeone and was happy. My ex rung me crying saying he missed me and never realised how muc...

A.   9 October 2006: You are old enough to date boys but parents always worry about thier children and it only shows that they care. Even though they realise that you have to make your own decision they only want the very best for you and they obviously dont think that ... (read in full...)

After a family wedding, my boyfriend suddenly decided he did not want to be in a relationship. What happened?

Q.   I'm 26 I have been in a relationship for the last 5 months with a guy of 27 who who I really like. We got together while he was still with his previous partner of 5 years but he decided to leave her so we could get together properly. He has told ...

A.   9 October 2006: Yikes this is a difficult one! I know you say that you are not thinking of marriage or anything but it looks like your bf is thinking about his previous relationship of 5 years and he's probably thinking that he isnt ready for another serious ... (read in full...)

Is she still "test-driving" me? I'm worried ill get hurt!

Q.   I am in a difficult situation with a lot of moving parts. I guess the best thing for me to do is lay out the situation and fight out what risks you might identify. I am dating a girl from work. We spend time together about once/twice a wee...

A.   9 October 2006: Even the smartest person can get hurt in a work relationship how do i know this? Cos im in exactly the same situation right now! I really like the guy im seeing from work but i know there can never be any more at first i thought that maybe there ... (read in full...)

I am having a destination wedding, but my family may not be able to afford it.

Q.   im getting married in a year, its a destination wedding, im scared to tell my aunts and uncles because we are so close and may not be able to afford to go. i have mentioned about a year ago that i wanted a wedding in the carribean and they blew up ...

A.   9 October 2006: It is your day and you should be able to have exactly what you want. It must be really hard that your family arnt totally behing you. You need to gather your family together and tell them just how much this means to you and you want to go abroad as ... (read in full...)

when people say that they "pulled someone" what does that mean?

Q.   when people say that they "pulled someone" what does that mean?...

A.   9 October 2006: It usually means that they have been lucky and got off with him or her, it usually means theyve kissed them and possibly have a chance of sleeping with them.... (read in full...)

I have been cheated on before, so I am expecting my new man to do the same. Am I worrying over nothing?

Q.   im wondering how a person can trust a man when been cheated on so many times by others. i am getting married in a year and i cant stop thinking about how he is just going to hurt me like all the others. so far so good. but i find because of the c...

A.   8 October 2006: You have very low self esteem at the moment and who can blame you when your trust has been badly damaged more than once. You need to speak to your partner and tell him how much you love him and tell him your insecurities. If you let him know how you ... (read in full...)

I love this guy, but so do 2 of my best friends. What should I do?

Q.   I went out with this boy for about 2 weeks. I never really loved him but he seemed so happy. Now about 5 months later I am madly in love with him. I want to go out with him but 2 of my bestfrends fancy him aswell. So I'm stuck in the middle. I want ...

A.   8 October 2006: Talk to him tell him you like him. Ok your best friends like him but when it comes to love sometimes other people have to get hurt for you to be happy. Just take your chances and speak to the guy.... (read in full...)

Do all women shave their pubic regions?

Q.   Ladys. do all women shave the pubic hair regions? i prefer to see a small amount of hair. is this normal for me?...

A.   8 October 2006: Some women dont shave but personally i do i think it looks better and is better for hygiene reasons. Some women leave a bit of hair 'landing strip' which is fine if thats what they prefer. I personally like the brazillian look.... (read in full...)

How am I supposed to just be there for him and be his friend, when i'm still in love with him?

Q.   Hi, my bf recently broke up with me bcuz he wanted to have a closure with his ex. He started hanging out with her, and the feelings came back, and he wants to see where it will go and if they still fight. He told me as soon as they have a fight he's ...

A.   8 October 2006: You are being niave please dont get back with this guy he is using you. He said that if it dosent work with his ex then he willcome back to you dont you understand the meaning of that? It means that if it dosent work out with the girl he really ... (read in full...)

What do girls like to talk about?

Q.   there is this really pretty girl i fancy. i've only met her once when i saw my mates with her. she is single. i got her phone number. i text her whenever i have a reason. the conversation keeps runnin when i ask her what she's upto, and how's ...

A.   8 October 2006: Ask her what she enjoys doing hobbies etc what films she likes... Your showing you like her already keep up the good work.... (read in full...)

After watching a movie, it made me send a loving text message. She never responded. Was I stupid?

Q.   hey, last night i watched this film and it really got me thinking about how much people mean to me in my life and i text this girl late at nite (one in the morning) and told her that when she moves from holland back to england im going to give her a ...

A.   8 October 2006: Your not stupid. You are just in touch with your emotions and you thought that youd let the girl know and theres nothing wrong with that. I think your quite brave as i am older than you 22 to be exact and i get afraid to tell people how I feel. Dont ... (read in full...)

I'm asking for advice of grown adults who have minds

Q.   I need your advice... I bet you all get sick of teenagers like me. I'm telling you this and asking for your advice because most of you are grown adults who have minds, and have been through it before and know what to do, or know what advice to g...

A.   8 October 2006: What youve had is a teenage romance and we all have them and we all would like them to last forever but they dont all last unfortuantely. When i read the part about your girlfriend ignoring you on MSN and speaking to other lads i straight away knew ... (read in full...)

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