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*peedball
writes:I've been friends with a woman (lets call her Butterfly) for 7 years now (all of our adult lives), she's actually one of my best friends. Butterfly is recently out of a harmful relationship and I am recently out of the military, so for the last couple of years we had light contact at best. A few months ago we started talking and hanging out regularly again, she had a boyfriend at the time, let's call him Oblivious. Butterfly had been cheating on Oblivious with me occasionally, and when Oblivious, who was completely oblivious to this, dumped her for an unrelated reason, Butterfly and I started fooling around. Butterfly and Oblivious recently got back together, not as commited as before. I'm the only person Butterfly has cheated on anyone with, and I have a feeling it'll start happening again. I would like to get into a relationship with Butterfly or stop being her other guy, but I don't want to feel like I'm issuing an ultimatum to her, and I don't want to lose one of my best friends.For the record, I am single right now.
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reader, Speedball +, writes (2 July 2009):
Speedball is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks. She actually got the information out of me when it looked like something was bothering me (I was nervous), and she was very understanding. It felt good to get off my chest, at the very least.
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