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writes:Hi Im feeling quite emotional at the momentI have a bf who is great and we get on really well and enjoy spending time together our relationship was long distance at the begining but now hes closer and all together weve been going out about nine monthsWith his job he sometimes has to go away and i miss him so much He says he misses me too but doesnt seem to miss me as much as i miss him Maybe its just coz hes gotton used to it over the years in his jobHe has got some kids from a previous relationship who live quite a way away he doesnt get to see them very often Im really pleased for him when he gets to see them although i do miss him im glad hes able to be with themI know im rambelling Sorry My point is iv not met his kids and he hasnt mentioned me meeting them Id luv to, to get to know them as they are important to him I dont know wether i should bring this up or notAlso at the start of our relationship he told me he finds it hard to say 'i love you'to people and due to this weve never said it A few times i have found myself wanting to and i really feel it Im not sure wether i should tho Is nine months long enough to say that and want to meet his kids?Thanks
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 If you feel that you love him say it. If he doesn't say it back put it down to his issues and don't take it to heart. As for the missing each other thing, men find it so much harder than women to show their feelings so quite likely he does miss you as much as you miss him, he just finds it hard to communicate his feelings. As for the kids whether 9 months is long enough is really up to him. Possibly he doesn't know that you'd like to meet them or possibly he wants the time he spends with them to be just about them and him or maybe he wants to be 100% sure about your relationship before introducing you. Any of these would be understandable because his first responsibility must be to his children and their needs but bring it up with him. Say you'd like to meet them and does he think that would be okay next time he goes to see them. Whatever his decision try to respect it. If your relationship is meant to be you will meet them when the time is right. It's just a question of patience.
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