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writes:I enjoy sex, the problem is my husband has a small penis that I can't feel. He's clumsy in bed and has never made me orgasm. I have tried talking to him about it and he gets angry and starts saying that I don't love him so I have faked more orgasms than I can count on my fingers and toes. I'm tired of faking orgasms and tired of being made to feel like it's my fault. Advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): You can't expect him to take your complaints seriously if you keep faking orgasms. He thinks that you are having orgasms, so he can't be that bad. I suggest you stop faking them. If he really loves you and truly cares about you, he will want to please you. When he realizes that he is not satisfying you, he will ask you to tell him how to do it. If he doesn't, he is just selfish and you should ask yourself whether you want to be married to someone who doesn't care about you. Good luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 If you love sex then you probably had sex before you married, and this issue never came up? You never thought 'mmm, maybe marrying someone who I am not sexually compatible with isn't such a good idea'?
What after all do you want to hear? there are surgical means of extending the penis, but they are very drastic. There are other ways perhaps for you to get stimulated. And he could become a better lover.
But fixing things so far along is a sign for me that neither of you is all that eager to actually work things out.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 oh dear.
i guess you do love him?
he is unconfident in bed, by the sounds of it, and no doubt because of worries about his small penis ... which are justified, as you can't feel it. how small is it? because even if quite small, if you are careful and intelligent about positions, i'm sure you would feel it.
but it depends how small, i guess. and also what size you are.
at the moment he seems to have a total block about it all. he needs education. you live in the states .. have you thought about sex therapy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): There is NO debate worth having regarding the g-spot!
Scientists can measure and pontificate all they want and bring up doubts about its existence, but many men, including me, can personally testify to its effect on the ladies when stimulated.
If it works, don't knock it!
Now, perhaps you can get your husband to push on your g-spot with his first two fingers, quite firmly, and rub a little. Use lubricant if needed.
When things start to happen, get him to push really firmly outwards on your g-spot, to raise your (by now) enlarged clit and then he can either lick it or flick it repeadedly: if you don't know what that will do for you, you've missed a big treat!
Next stage?
Ask him to suck your clit right into his mouth whilst still pressing on your g-spot, and tickle the tip of your clit with the tip of his tongue.
When you have descended from the ceiling, do please come back and tell me how great it was!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Ok, say you do love him. Maybe when he's out use a an "adult toy". That way you will have pleasure and not him knowing. Hide it in a panty liner box if you can fit or a makeup bag. It's not everyday you see a man in a makeup bag. Or maybe have a threesome. Make sure your husband is comftable with it though. But make sure he knows you love him. Maybe do something for him pleasureably for you to be in his good books
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