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writes:Dear all , I need some advice about my nanny. I have a one year old baby girl and i work everyday from 8-2 .. so she is left at home with the nanny who cleans at the same time .. She has a day off at friday .. To be honest I have never seen anything suspicious about her treating my toddler excpect that once or twice i came in to the house to see her leaving my baby infront of the TV in her carriage and cleaning the bathroom .. i hav told her several times that she can clean our very small apartement when my baby is asleep .. but she seems to be very stubborn about that..Anyway the main problem is that my baby hates the nanny .. she resents her whenever we pass her on to her.. she always cries although my baby is a very joyful one that loves people...I was thinking of installing nanny cams but my subconcious mind always tells me that im hallucinating..can babies just hate their nanies for no reason at all?Thanks Alot Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 August 2010):
I agree with both posts below.
DrPsych has a very good point. But so does Eyes. So read both and make a decision.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Your child is at a developmental stage where she may have associated 'being passed to the nanny' with you leaving the family home to a long time. If she cries upon maternal separation, that is totally normal...I would be more concerned if she didn't have an emotional response. When I left the house without my little boy at that age, you could have heard him howling streets away! I don't understand why the nanny is doing housework. She probably resents it if she was employed as a babysitter and turned into bottle-washer. I think a baby should never be left alone, because those wandering hands and feet can get into all sorts of trouble. If you have child protection concerns, install nanny cam's around your home or just fire the nanny and find another qualified person. However, if you do go down the cam route and you find your child is not being mistreated after a reasonable time period then you should take them away and never tell the nanny what you have been doing. If she is not guilty of misconduct then she could sue you for breach of privacy etc by recording her without her consent. I personally think if you have any doubts about her performance then you should just get rid of her. But you should also re-evaluate your expectations of the duties of a nanny which should be focused on caring for children, not scrubbing floors.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I'd get that nanny cam if I were you. There just might be a very good reason why your baby doesn't like the nanny. Why risk your baby's safety?
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