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writes:Okay there is this guy who is in his 40's that I really like. He is not married and never has been. I am attracted to him but I don't know if he likes me back. He came to my church one time and he kept staring at me and it looked like he was staring at my chest. He jokes around a lot and is really playful so it is hard to tell whether or not he likes me. He doesn't do that with any other girl that I am aware of. I told him we should get together sometime in June and he said he didn't think he could wait that long because he needed the entertainment that my presence brings. Also I asked him to come to my church recently and he said he couldn't because it would be only to see me and that is no reason to come to a church. Does it seem like he likes me? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 May 2010):
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Why would a man in his 40s stare at an 18 year old's chest?
For the very same reason that any other man of any age would look at a woman's chest. There are two very attractive things on women's chests, you know?
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (7 May 2010):
 I think it sounds likes he is interested in you sexually. and you're a christian, even though I have renouced my faith, I do respect what others believe. and if you truly beleive in what the bible says then don't go for this guy. Not only would the age gap be a maybe issue but perhaps that you go to church and he doesnt may come one later on.
now use logic. He is 20ish years older than you, he stared at your chest. He hints at interest at you. However, I feel that it may be for sex or a fling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): He sounds like a player to me. Why would a man in his 40s stare at an 18 year old's chest? and why would he flirt with a girl who is much younger than him? how come he is not married yet?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (7 May 2010):
I am sure he was indeed looking at your chest. We men do that.
Apparently he likes you too, but he doesn't like you enough to convert to your religion. I don't think it would be wise to insist on his outwardly adopting a set of beliefs that he doesn't believe in. "Going through the motions", they call it.
"His forties" might mean something like 49, or 40, or 45. I am pessimistic about the age gap, since you're not older than 21. He could be 28 years older than you. It won't matter much now, but it will matter a lot when you're 40 and he's 68.
Wish you the best.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 He likes you in a sexual way. He doesn't care if he would be emotionally connected to you later. I don't know what you expect of him but you probably won't want to be come a sexual object. He's not Christian. He only comes to church to prey on young innocent girls. After he spotted one there's no reason to go again. If he does this to other girls he shouldn't be welcomed back to the church.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 May 2010):
He seems to know you like him, and I think he's playing you. You'll end up being used by this man. If I were you, I wouldn't have anything to do with him. You're just going to end up used.
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