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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This past weekend I went to a family gathering with my dad's family most of which I haven't seen in over 10 years. I spent the most time with one of my dad's cousins whom I was very close with when we were growing up and this time got a little closer than family should get. As kids we'd play around with the idea of us getting close like this and while we were caching up it turned out we both had feelings for each other. We kept in contact, we been spending some time together and now I think I'm falling for him. We spoke about actually dating but both agreed if the family found out it would end our "thing" I don't want to end what we have but I also don't want to end up getting in so deep I end up getting hurt...help !
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 I can understand how difficult it will be, but it does get easier in time. Just remember that you risk losing your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016): I think I already knew the answer to this question but the I had to hear it from someone else... a stranger rather since I can't talk to my family about it. considering he is part of my family he is equally important to me, but walking away is going to be hard because he does live somewhat close to me and we're going to see each other at other gatherings.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (6 October 2016):
If your dad found out about this he would be deeply hurt, as would all his family be. The longer you keep this a secret the more it is going to hurt you. I can advise you now to stay away from your dad's cousin but I don't think you will listen to me. The way I see it is you are falling for him already, the longer you leave it the worse it is going to be, you will keep going until your heart is broke. Your family will never accept this. So you need to ask what is more important, your family or him?
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