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writes:I am currently on a long distance relationship, and I am always flying over to his place. I am planning to see him next week; but I was also planning to go the following week (meaning 10 days after); but he told me not to come since he is coming down to see me on New Year's, but that is almost a whole month. I asked him why and he said that he does not want me to waste more money and time in traveling specially since he is coming on New Year's. I said that money was not an issue for me, and I insisted on going but, he insisted not to. Now, I don't want to begg , but I got very upset and told him that I would not go next week at all and we'll see each other on new year's then.I don't understand, he tells me that is not big deal and that we'll see each other next week and then a month after. However, I am the kind of person that puts the relationship first and then the financial latter. I told him that for me the time spent together is worth much more than that, then he said that we were different people and thought differently.Now, my question is: Am I missing something here? or Am I overreacting? I mean, Is it OK for him to say that? Is that normal? Is he planning something else?Is he not that in love with me? Is he into our relationship or what? I have all this questions in my mind and I am just going nuts. I am undecided whether to even go next week, but he says Yes to go next week, but not to the following? I am confused...Why would he not want me to go the following week..
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reader, guillaume  + ♥, writes (23 November 2007):
Hi, Just an idea as I'm in a LD relationship at the moment. My partner did a similar thing and we spoke about it and she said that she wanted to take things slowly. (I respect this.)So, this might be his way of taking things slowly. This is not a bad thing, so, if I were you, I would see him as arranged and not worry too much about the following week.But, keep talking and keep it relaxed!!!!! Just an idea!!best wishes, hope all goes well!G.
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