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writes:So basically, I have a guy friend that I'm really close to, but I'm trying to figure out whether we're friends or a 'potential couple'. I feel like I'm getting somewhat mixed signals. On the one hand, we could almost be a couple already: we are extremely similar, constantly tease one another in a flirtatious way, text every day and tell one another things we can't tell anyone else. Plus, he recently started asking me hypothetical questions about my sex life and how I would have reacted to something that he'd seen in one of his own or someone else's relationships. He also tends to make somewhat explicit sexual jokes about me, which are supposedly funny because I'm so sexually inexperienced. I feel that I should clarify, though, that his joking and questions seem to be more out of genuine interest than a general obsession with sex, and that he doesn't ask these questions or make these jokes about girls other than me. Plus, he knew that for a while I was interested in a guy who had started treating me really badly, and kept telling me that I deserved someone who treated me better and appreciated me, and ended up going into town with me and calling our hanging out a 'date' at every opportunity. But at the same time, he doesn't pretend to be someone else around me. In the past, with his girlfriends, he's always tried to be on his best behavior and not be gross or anything, but he doesn't do those things for me. So, I'm confused as to whether I'm just one of the guys to him, or if I have potential to become his girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): I've found that often when a man says you could do better, they mean they want to be the one! From what you are telling me, I think he is asking these things to find out about you and whether you would be interested in taking things to a new level.
Sounds very promising to me. I think that strong relationships are built on friendship first and on openness and honesty, and that it's important to feel at ease with one another.
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reader, bittersweetmemory  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 i do believe you two are a potentional couple
i think the fact that he doesn't try to change his behaviour when he is with you means that he feels totally comfortable around you and is happy that he doesn't have to impress you..
however it might be that he is afraid to make a move because he doesn't know if you'd be interested in being his gf or nor..
i do think that should come with time though..just spend time together and maybe give some signs that you like him and you're interested :)
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): It definitely seems like he's interested in being more than friends. It seems like he's testing the waters to see where you're at. I would suggest flirting with him subtly to see what he does.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (10 June 2011):
Hi there. It sounds like he is interested in you as a possible girlfriend in the near future.
All the things you have said here, seem to point to or hint at that, in one way or another.
He is probably biding his time at the moment, to see how things develop between you, so is holding back from doing anything - like trying to kiss you, for instance.
He is also being respectful towards you, which is good.
Until you show some kind of interest towards him other than a good friend, he probably won't make a move either.
Perhaps at some time when you are with him, you could say to him - "You're a really nice guy and I like you a lot."
Don't be mushy or try to kiss him when you say this. Also, make sure the timing is right and up until that point, that everything seems to be going smoothly. Gauge it all by his mood at the time, and how he treats you. Listen to your heart.
It is best for you to wait for him to make the first move though, so there are no awkward moments.
But the short answer is, yes he definitely seems to be looking towards a bit more than friendship with you, sometime soon, I'd say.
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