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*rincesskilala
writes:So me and my friend recently got together secretly. No one in our group of friends know about us. We go out together secretly and Almost everytime we see eachother we end up making out in the car for hours. One particular night on my birthday I had a party at my house and it got pretty crazy and a bunch of my friends slept over and I ended up sleeping, not sex, with him next to me and we started to make out while everyone was sleeping. The thing that bothers me is that I'm not sure if I can safely say that we're officially bf and gf. I asked him that night but he didn't answer me. He just said that we should enjoy our time together. I'm going to be out of state for a year and I know that bothers him cuz he always avoids that. when I went clubbing with friends, he went with me eventhough he wasn't in the mood to go. And he tries to get me to promise him to not "share my love" with anyone else. He gets worried everytime I talk to a guy cuz I tend to flirt without knowing it. I don't know what to think of us, if we should tell our friends, and how should I ask him about how he feels about me. Help I'm in a mess.
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reader, elite123 +, writes (15 October 2010):
he can't have his cake and eat it too. don't you dare have sex with him before you make it official.... or why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free sort of thing! lol they make these sayings for a reason! i would say to him that you would like to be exclusive with him and you will just have to move on if that isn't what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): I think you both WANT to be an item, but you are both holding back from trully committing to each other out of fear of what your friends might say.
If they are any kind of friends, they will have noticed already that you two are closer then normal.
If you really want this to work out, then you are gonna have to bite the bullet and just come clean about your feelings, first to each other, face to face. And then to your friends and family.
It might be awkward for a little bit, but that will pass. And you two will be able to make out without sneaking around (unless you like sneaking around, in which case you can still do that thought it won't strictly be required).
Flynn 24
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