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writes:Ive just come out of a really bad relationship where I was treated really badly. My friends invited me clubbing this weekend with them, which I have only ever done once because my ex boyfriend wouldn't let me go unless he was with me, and he hates clubbing so I only went once.Anyway I want to look for another boyfriend but I know clubs aren't the best place to look for a potential boyfriend because most people there are looking for a one night stand and you can't really have proper conversations. However are there any tips you can give me on seperating the guys at clubs who want just sex and ones who might be looking for more? Also what are some other ways to meet guys? There are no males at my work, only females :( Most of my frends don't know many guys and their boyfriends' are all in the army, so I don't want to be set up with their boyfriends' friends because I don't want to get into a relationship with an army guy cause he would be moving around lots!any advice? thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): Don't hang around in night clubs if you want to find a relationship.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Hi
Its true guys in clubs are more likely to just be after a bit of fun. But whats wrong with just swapping numbers, then meeting another day somewhere quieter? Me and an ex did that & were together nearly 2 years. He was renoun for pulling girls in clubs & using them (even before they got home) but he said he grew out of that before he met me.
It does tend to be the scene though for one nighters, a club. Just make sure you dont give it to them & you should be fine. If you go in pubs before you go clubbing, there might be guys in there that arent actually into clubbing. They cant ALL be only out for a good night shag.
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reader, lisa21 +, writes (16 August 2007):
if i were you i'd forget about blokes for a while as you've only jus become single. you can't always look at a person and know what theyr'e like, but to avoid the men who aren't only after you for sex is simple.... don't give it to them, get to know them before it gets that far. Clubbing is definitely more of a singles scene so a lot of men and women will not all be looking for something serious, the best way to find a man is not to look, nice men are out there and when the times right you'll meet them. like i said don't rush back into the dating scene. good luck. x x x
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