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female
age
36-40,
*ostone
writes:I think I have too little experience to honestly answer this for myself, I'll explain a little why I'm asking. My bf of 4 years has developed an infatuation with another girl. He told her he loved her, but I'm not sure if he even knows if his feelings are genuine or not. They've only seen each other face to face once over a week-long trip, but have been talking online for a year (as friends, but he hid that he had a little crush on her and apparently she felt the same way).I want our relationship to work, and he is very confused. He says it can't work because relationships aren't supposed to be work if it's the right person. At that time he recalled when we first got together and how great it was at first. "What happened to that?" he asked. To me, time happened and love happened. When the honeymoon phase is gone and you develop stronger feelings and grow closer, conflict will happen and it can be a sign of a healthy relationship and make you closer.So firstly, do you think if you're with the right person, there will never be problems? Or are all good relationships hard work and the two just need to learn to communicate better? And how do you know if your arguing is just from two people being individuals, or if it means you really aren't compatible anymore?And second, do you think that what he feels for this girl is just infatuation and the excitement and novelty that comes with those new feelings? Can he really feel stronger for a girl he knew online and only saw for a week, than he does for me after four years?
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