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writes:We didn't have sex. We cuddled and made out. No hj or bj, no touching of my bottom private either. He was being extremely sweet (interlock fingers, kissing forehead, cheeks, palm, etc) but I dump that as an act of fwb. I didn't text him the following night when he asked me how was my day. The following day, he texted me asking why I didn't text him. And from 3pm, he continued texting me until 2am!! He kept continuing our conversations. Nothing sexual at all. He even said stuffs like "I don't want to be left alone. :(" when I suggested I should stop texting. Is he getting emotionally attached? :/ Or is this normal for someone who wants to get laid? He knows I won't have sex though. Just fool around.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 December 2016):
 It does sound like he has developed feelings for you. Now I wonder what it is you feel for him? Do you want more than FWB? If you don't then I think you need to end this as he is only going to end up heartbroken, and the longer you leave it the harder it is going to be for him. Off course if you do have feelings for him then talk to him and tell him and see where you guys should go from there. Let us know how you get on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 December 2016):
 He's clingy, unsure for what reason. Maybe he wants to have sex, or he just wants to be close again, or he has feelings for you. Either way he sounds needy and clingy. It might just be his nature.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 December 2016):
 Most FWBs avoid doing those things because it usually creates an emotional attachment, so no, he probably wouldn't be doing it unless he really likes you.
You need to talk about your feelings with each other and call off the FWBs arrangement, if he's getting attached.
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reader, blueskyday  +, writes (18 December 2016):
Let me get this straight
1) you guys haven't had sex.
2) you haven't had a talk as to what you are.
I just want to know what made you think that he is or was interested in a FWB type of relationship? I mean maybe this guy actually has real feelings for you and was actually making his move on you. I think you really need to figure out how you feel about this guy first. At least figure that out before you crush the poor guy. He may turn out to be what you want! But don't string him along until you figure out what you do want. But, also don't shut him down if you're unsure because if that changes you'll both end up hurt and unhappy.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (18 December 2016):
 You two need to talk about what is important: YOU. We cannot guess what is in his head but, for what it's worth, he is acting (from what you describe) like someone who really cares for you.
I am rather confused about your "arrangement" though. Are you FWB or not? I always thought FWB was all about having sex with a friend without the commitment of a relationship, yet you say you will not have sex. Are you both virgins and testing the water with each other?
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reader, froofroo22 +, writes (18 December 2016):
Yes he is getting attached. No it is not normal for a man who just wants to have sex.
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