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Any ideas on how to deal with an angry, abusive ex-boyfriend, that you want nothing to do with?

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Question - (8 June 2009) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United States age 36-40, *kipperjojo writes:

Hello,

I am in need of advice. I was in a 4 year verbally abusive relationship and have been out of the relationship for nearly 2 years. My ex and I have had angry and painful communication over the last 2 years and we recently talked on the phone and came to a mutual agreement to be on amicable terms. I went into our conversation to try to help him alleviate and deal with his anger toward me ... so that I would not receive anymore hurtful and abusive communication from him. (He was sending random e-mails and texts to me that were very mean).

We had a good conversation and he feels as though we are "friends" now. He has voiced his interest in occassionally grabbing a drink or going to a concert with me. I have absolutely NO interest in having him in my life. I am sickened by the thought of having anything to do with him. I simply wanteded to put an end to his unresolved anger toward me.

My current boyfriend is very concerned about me ex's contact with me. He is supportive of my decision to speak with my ex and bring closure to the situation. But he, like myself, is worried that my ex will continue to pursue me.

I need advice on how to deal with my ex. He's really easy to trigger into an angry, defensive person and I need to somehow get him to stop contacting me without reverting back to him feeling like we are not "friends." I am worried that my current boyfriend will eventually want to step in.

What should I do?

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