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writes:hi, i have a huge problem and it can lead to my boyfriend dumping me. okay so he is faithful,caring etc and doesnt keep a secret from me. yes i love him to bits but problem is a guy i had a huge crush on at high school just told me he's been inlove with me since 2005 and he wants me to meet his parents as his girlfriend. i told him about my boyfriend and he says i can date them both because he lives far from me and we can only see each other once a month. im tempted to say yes but i dont want to hurt my boyfriend.weve been going out for 6 months and have had no argument to date, he treats me like a queen.What should i do? do i date the other guy and experince what it could have been like in matric or do i tell my boyfriend the truth?
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reader, oscar +, writes (10 October 2007):
 Do not go with this other guy!
I mean... what kind of guy is okay with you having a boyfriend and "sort of" being his girlfriend? He does not love you like he should if he a) interferes with your happy relationship b)wants to "share" you with another man!
This is only going to cause heartache. If your crush loves you like he says he does... tell him that you need time to sort things out before you take any action.
Then my advice would be to take a break from your boyfriend and THEN weigh your options with both of them.
Please- i've been in a similar situation and i did not take this advice and I wish that i had!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): The best thing you can do here is just to be flattered by the attention and nothing else. If you take this guy up on his offer it will definitely weaken your relationship with your current boyfriend, and you could end up being dumped - that's almost certain.
If there's nothing wrong with your relationship at the moment, why risk ruining it?
You need to put 100% into any relationship to keep it alive. What you're thinking of doing will reduce it by half.
You obviously have doubts about it or you wouldn't be asking the question, and I can't imagine anyone with any sense telling you to go for it.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): If i was you i would just walk away. This can lead to nothing but trouble. How would you feel if your bf was going on like that? Not good. What can be gained from it, nothing but heartache. You have a lovely bf so why do you want to spoil that, and for what? Just say thank you but no thanks! And enjoy all you have.
take care
xx
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