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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:an old flame has return into my life, literally months after I got engaged. This old flame is amazing.. I mean she turns heads wherever she goes.My current/future wife is a great woman. She will be a great wife and mother (eventually). But I can't stop thinking about the other flame. What makes it worse, is that the other lass gave me her number... after years of not speaking. Like me, this old flame is also recently engaged.Am I reading too much into this, or am I right to be confused.More to the point, why is this even an issue for me? I feel weak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): how would you feel if you went for the old flame and you lost your current flame? its your choice. id say lose contact with the old (its old for a reason) and give yourself 100% to your fiance. So she got engaged and then gave her number to an ex... hmmmmm dont go there.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 I'm afraid it just comes down to sorting out, in your head, what your priorities are and concentrating on that.
If that means forgetting about the other woman and moving on, so be it.
If that means you no longer want to be with your current partner cos you're not ready, so be it.
It can be confusing but it is also quite simple-make the choice, stick with it, live with the consequences.
Sounds like you'd be making a huge mistake if you left your current partner tho-women like that don't come around often dude. And the other sounds like a bit of a player in my opinion...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): You are both playing with fire and loving it. If there was nothing between you you would not be doing this. If you were completely happy with your wife to be you would not be 'shopping' (even window shopping) elsewhere. Either decide you need to leave your past in the past or decide you are not ready / mature enough for marriage.
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