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writes:Firstly, I want to say that to those whose opinions vary from mine- I respect your choice and this is not meant to be 'anti-promiscious' in general, even if I personally am for my life.I am 25 and in my first year of college. I am loving it here- and loving living in residence. But I hear so many stories of hook ups and drunk sex with strangers, it leaves me with a sick feeling in my stomach. I feel as though there is noone out there who wants to save marriage for important relationships (marriage or long term/significant relationships).Sometimes I feel like I am the only human in the world who feels this way and wants to only be with I also worry that women (and people in general) don't see me as a 'man' if I don't want to have sex with them in the first 2 weeks/month or whatever the standard it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): Don't get involved with a woman who has casual sex. Your moral values just don't agree with it and that is okay. If you get mixed up with a woman who does or ever has done these things then will eat away at you as long as you are with her.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 the right girl is out there for you, you are just seeing the crowd that is loading baggage , and placing skeletons in their closet,s . there are other people that have standard,s like you do. the people that are hooking up , and partying are just making them self,s stand out .
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (7 September 2011):
 No, you are perfectly normal.
People come in all shapes, sizes, likes, dislikes, preferences, orientations, kinks, desires, etc...
People come sexually wired in different categories too.
There are plenty of men and women that are anti-casual sex.
It is not that they hate sex or judge those who are casual..they just are not into for themselves.
If someone pushes you too fast, then they are not right for you anyway...so who cares what they think about your personal choice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): You are not the only person who feels like you do.
"I hear so many stories of hook ups and drunk sex with strangers"
I hear them as well, while counseling others, dealing with their depression, anxiety, remorse, and deep rooted insecurities and feelings of worthlessness that they still carry with them 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, and yes even 70 years later.
No kidding.
I am glad I missed the casual drunken sex and drugs boat when I was younger.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 I don't believe in casual sex either, and I know quite a few other's who don't either. At the end of the day it's a personal thing. Stick to your beliefs and you will meet the girl of your dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): I hate the idea of casual sex and don't really understand it although I used to look at women and get the urge i would never do anything, with my current gf of 2 years now and we waited 1 year for sex, was better like that
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reader, Molly0102  +, writes (7 September 2011):
I don't believe in casual sex too. You're not the only one out there cos my friends don't believe in casual sex as well :) it's sad that ppl out there choose to live their lives like that. But just stick to your principles. Things will always work out :) and trust me there'd be many conservative girls who'd appreciate a guy like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): to each his own. It's fine for you to be celibate and it's fine for others to bang their brains out.
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reader, CASA DE FIGUEROA +, writes (7 September 2011):
Theres nothing wrong with that. Who cares what people say and do, dont be the one to fall under peer preasure. At the end of the day you will not be the one dying od aids and regeretting things. Keep your head up. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): you won't have to look back with regret,s or skeleton,s in your closet. as far as the women that are hooking up with any guy that breathe,s have very little self respect for them self. the right woman is out there for you , just be patient .
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