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anonymous
writes:I feel so stupid writing this so bear with me :)I've been in an LDR for about 1.5 years and everything's wonderful. Only one more month until I can see him!Well, recently I convinced my boyfriend to set up an instant messenger program on his computer so we could talk more frequently. The first time we chatted on there (two days ago), we had a short but sweet conversation.My friend was over today, and noticed that he was online. She's never spoken to him, so she started to IM him...and that developed into a 2 hour long conversation.I feel so dumb for feeling jealous, but I feel like I never get to really talk to him, and when I do it's only for 10 minutes. Meanwhile my friend, whom he barely knows, keeps him online for 2 hours.I think it's just a mix of insecurity and missing him so much that I feel so jealous. I don't want to act like one of those insecure annoying girlfriends, but for some reason it really bothered me. Am I being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): *I asked the question*Saddad, the LDR before the IMs has basically been e-mail, phone and in-person meetings (the first time we ever met was in person, I didn't meet him online.)We're both on the same page as far as the relationship goes, we often talk about where we're headed. I know how he feels about me, so I feel really dumb for being jealous.
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reader, saddad  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 What form did the LDR take before you set up IM? Telephone conversations, letters or both? How frequently? Do you meet your bf in person often? Are you both aware and on the same wavelength as to how serious your relation is?
LDR are obviously the most difficult to maintain and everyone that has been involved in one feels an element of insecurity at times. Your certainly not being stupid and most people would feel jealous to an extent in your position.
Speak to your bf about your future together. LDR have a far better change of survival if there is a set date, be it only as specific as a year, that you will be together and cut the LD out.
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