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writes: Hey all,well Im a little bit ashamed of myself writing this. I think I may be a shallow guy and i never thought it before.My sister set me up on a blind date. I was dubious anyway but went along. When the Lady showed up I knew straight away that I wasn't attracted to her and this was based on her looks. We had a great chat great conversation but purely as friends, I didn't feel there was any chemistry there on either side and not on my side.At the end of it I awkwardly indicated that I didn't really want to meet her again but felt like a real douche for doing so. Thing is, I've never been in that position before, any other girl I've dated I've met first and been attracted to. I just wondered what ye thought, and I giving myself a hard time here or am I a skunk?Don't get me wrong as I said she was a lovely girl lovely personality and not bad looking physically and I am no Adonis myself. Anyway just wanted to know what ye thought. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 These agony aunts are all correct. I would also add that (presuming you were not rude when you told her you did not wish to see her again) you get "Kudos" for being honest with her and not stringing her along.
There are plenty of people that many find attractive that won't "do it for you" either.
It's chemistry, not looks.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 You're only a skunk if you were rude to her about it. It doesn't sound like you were. She didn't do it for you, it's not her fault and it's not yours. It just is what it is. Forgive yourself, and don't let your sister make you out to be a bad guy for not feeling the spark for the blind date she produced for you.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): No, nothing that you said here, portrays you as shallow. Dont get hung up on this issue, if its not 'there' for you, its not 'there'. Who knows what makes someone attractive to someone else? Good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 September 2009):
 Heck fire, it was a blind date. I don't think you are shallow at all. You weren't attracted to her, end of story.
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