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writes:My girlfriend has pictures of herself with another guy on facebook and its really pissin me off! There are about five pics of them and they all seem really flirty to me. He has his arm around her in most of them. They talk on the phone and skype every once in a while..she talks about him sometimes, claiming him to be her "best friend." Anything to worry about or am i just over reacting? Oh and they rarely get to see eachother in person so i haven't really made a big deal out of it yet. I really dont want to confront her about this either because we never fight and im hoping to keep it that way.
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
Facebook is the worst thing to happen to relationships I think. On one hand everyone can see it, so it isn't hidden, on the other, the girls just justify it by saying he's a friend... if you say anything then you are a jealous control freak.
There's nothing you can do about it. I'd advise against posing with some girl and doing the same. Keep reading the answers, maybe someone will know what you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): Ask her if she would be ok with you having skype chats with another girl and pics of you with your arm around her on facebook. I'm guessing she wouldn't like it very much... so you have a double standard, which isn't fair, and she will surely realize that! best of luck!
I had this problem with my GF a while back... some old school buddy whom she chatted alot with on FB. I asked her about it and she ended up showing me pics of him... to be honest, and I don't want to be mean, but that dude was grossly overweight and but-ugly... that settled all my worries. Childish, I know, but it helped... haha.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 There are always going to be other guys in her life, you can't stop that. That doesn't mean you have to worry about her cheating on you or ditching you for some other guy. I hope that helps.
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reader, TalonZurfluh  +, writes (25 August 2010):
i wouldnt worry about it, youve got it easy bro. my girlfriend had some guy friends and shed have sleepovers with them and tell them she loved them, but as a friend, or whatever. yeah i quickly put an end to that. but any ways, ask her if she can introduce you two, and maybe he wont be such a bad guy after all. go lightly about it making you angry, girls are sensitive about their friends
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reader, smile(: +, writes (25 August 2010):
It sounds like there is a real problem (if only because it makes you feel uncomfortable) and it has been around for a while and not taken care of itself. So I would say you need to do something at this point. I would say the best option is to ask her about it. Discussing something does not mean you have to fight over it. Find out what is going on, how she perceives things, tell her how you feel about what you've seen. Hopefully that will be enough to fix it. Perhaps she is just trying to make you jealous, get you to go after her more; or perhaps she is completely unfaithful and you ought to leave her. But not dealing with the issue until it is too big to deal with is not a wise idea.Not wanting to fight ever is a worthy goal, especially with your girlfriend, but you do have to fight for yourself sometimes when other people are trying to walk all over you, no one else will do that for you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Have you ever met him? My best friend is a guy so I'm siding with your girlfriend on this one. I introduced my husband to my best friend over dinner one night and they got along really well. Ask her to see if he wanted him to come over one night and hang out, or invite him and a girl he's seeing out to dinner like a double date. You're overreacting on this one.
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