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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out since january. At first we texted all the time. I swear there was hardly a text where he didn't answer me.Every e-mail was answered, he was never to busy for me and i him. We saw eachother everyday in class because thats just how it was. But then it started getting more..seperated. He wouldn't text me as often and I was ok with that i didn't expect him to answer me 24/7 that would be insane and obssessive and i realize he has a life. this past year was my last year at that school. Over the summer i went out of state for 7 weeks. I called him textd him and e-mailed him once his phone became un-broken again.(hes so funny!!!:)) At first he answered like all the time ya no. and then it slowly died...i was lucky if i got a 30 second conversation with him. Everytime i texted him, he'd vry rarley answer except when i said goodnight.(now that doesn't even happen anymore..)One day I was just sitting there doing nothing. it had rained all day adn i couldn't go outside. I had been trying to get ahold of him all day. I got a text from him...:DBut lo and behold it wasn't meant for me. :( it was for another girl he'd been talking to. it said nothing personal, they are just friends and i know that because she is mine. But it hurt that he had been talking to her and ignoring me.When i got back we set up a time to meet. He was there and i swear it was the best day of my life. He treated me as if i were the only thing important in his life i felt so special!! lol! I texted him later that night. No response. itwas ok. 4 days goes by...i'm still waiting...1 week ...2... 3... finally joy of my life i got a response!!!! 4 responses actually and then he had to go. I love him deeply he is my best friend but this whole not talking thing makes me very sad. when he does talk to me it's the best moment of that day!!Lately another few week spout went by i thought maybe he had lost his phone again(he loses his phone alot and it takes awhile sometimes. but i love him.) and i figured when i talked to one of his friends they would tell me what was going on because he is not allowed on the computor or anything if he doesn't have his phone. but i come to find out he has been getting every text i sent him!!!! He texts emails calls his friends my friends but not me.help me plz!!! Am I just being an obsessive girlfriend or is he just not that into me anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Tbh you sound like your coming on a little strong..
Guys your age dont like to be texted and emailed all the time, it makes them feel stifled and boys are lazy! And once it has been going on a while the excitement leaves.
If it was any other girl the same thing would happen.
Ease off on the texting and trying to get his attention.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Its past the honeymoon period. Always happens after 6 months, and girls become too clingy then guys will end up leaving. Happens so much on here. What to do is, not talk to him. Dont text him. Dont talk to him first. No matter HOW much you want him. Cause if you dont talk to him, he will wonder why your not. And when he does talk to you, dont be so quick to answer. Let him wait. Go out with other people and he will come crawling back! Guaranteed!
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reader, shapoopsy +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Hi Anonymous! Sometimes, a person can feel pestered and it causes him to withdraw, but he is being a rude coward. It is very wrong of him to ignore you and talk to your friends. I'm sorry that this has gone down such an unhappy path, but you simply cannot allow a guy to treat you like this. I'm not sure what went wrong, but don't blame yourself, okay? He's not being nice. You are being an angel. So, fly away and shine your halo over a better dude! ~Shapoopsy
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reader, justmeinthisbigworld +, writes (23 September 2010):
 hey..have you tried talking to him about how you feel? maybe tell him that you feel sad when you guys don't talk. as much as it hurts me to say he just might not be that into you anymore. The only way to find out is to tell him how you feel. Send it as an e-mail or text. maybe even leave a voicemail. The worst that's going to happen is you guys will break up, but it will be better that way because now you're not wasting your time waiting around for him. sure it'll hurt for a little while, but eventually you'll get over him and maybe meet an even better guy.
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