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writes:Ok, I've been friends with this guy for about a year and a half and as of September we've been talking on the phone and texting every day. He's in the army so he only comes home for the weekend like once every 6 weeks. I don't really know what the set up with us is, I've asked him why is it we actually talk so much and his reply was he enjoys my banter. That's fine by me, I'm not looking for a relationship; I enjoy everything about being single but if it happens, it's happens. I'm happy either way.The last time he was home, we went out for a walk down the beach and went to some arcades and got some food. Since he said that enjoys my banter, I assumed I'm 'friend zoned' and this wasn't a date? So when he dropped me off afterwards I was right not to finish it off with a kiss? My friends are telling me this was a date and I should have at least kissed him. Now this has got me thinking about when he's home in a couple of weeks because we've planned to go out for the day, do I kiss him at the end or not? I don't want him to think that I'm holding back but then again if it's just as friends, I don't want him to think that I want it to be anything more?
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reader, R1 +, writes (10 May 2013):
 Ok sounds like the plan is to stay in the car long enough of him to have the chance to kiss you then! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2013): Kiss him..He is in the army and they do feel shy in front of girls.Even he might be having feeling for you.Its better if you do and then get rejected then not doing it all and wondering whether you should have done it all
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I agree it shouldn't all be down to me. I think he was about to make a move on me but I was panic talking because I wasn't sure how we were meant to end it and then jumped out the car haha.
He knows that I've been dating and that I slept with an old ex bf (old as in we split up 5years ago) and he told me about sleeping with a girl he met on a night out, so he knows it wouldn't bother me if he was talking to other girls
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reader, R1 +, writes (9 May 2013):
It's not all down to you, if he wants to kiss you he needs to make done moves himself. What about some gentle flirting and see if he gets the message...
I don't know what to make of his intentions, is be naturally suspicious if he is in the army that he is also messaging/talking to other girls. But I suppose that's up to you to find out...
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