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*onfusedangelito
writes:dear cupid I'm 20 years old and I have a big crush on my uncle's wife she is 32, their marriage is not that great and I hear them argue on the phone a lot ,they have one child together, she has a doughter from a past relationship, my aunt and I flirt a lot,we wrestle around, on many occasions I would smack her butt and she seems to like it and I think I'm falling in love with her, I dream about her and I would go visit them just to see her, on one occasion my uncle and their kids were out of town and she asked me if I wanted to stayed the night I had consideration and said I had stuff to do but now I regret not staying that night because my feelings for her have getting bigger what should I do? Is it obsession?
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reader, Gregory Bamboozle  +, writes (1 December 2009):
not sure if its love or an obsessions but its definatly dam akward
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 November 2009):
 Sounds a bit like an obsession. It's also dangerous to the family for you to do anything about it, other than ignore the feelings. It's your hormones that are doing the thinking right now, time to let your brain in your skull take over and do its job. Be logical and think things through all the way to the end.
You have one end of the spectrum, you let things lie and you do NOTHING. Nobody finds out and you eventually grow out of it.
The other one is where your entire family is ripped apart because they find out you are trying to get it on with your uncle's wife. That usually goes over pretty badly. Parents feel strongly about things like that, so do aunts and uncles, oh, and cousins and grandparents. They tend to look down on boys who are letting their gonads do the planning.
Let it go. Fantasize if you must but keep your hands and eyes off her; this has 'disaster' written all over it.
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reader, CoolAndCoolest  +, writes (24 November 2009):
honestly, cann't you take it just as a fun and leave.
looks like you are wishing for a love life and taking your uncle's wife for yourself.
this may not end up good. playing around is not much a problem. your age is a consideration. she may also like it.
i can understand your feelings. a guy of your age will sure look for something this way. more than that she is available to you in your family. situations are like that she is in favor to you.
try to be in control. do not loose your mind in such a way that you can do anything.
you have a strong capability to control yourself. that is why when she asked you to stay, you objected.
i cannot judge you. let the phase turn out. do act on it purposefully.
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